I some time back seperated with ex with whom I have my only daughter who is 151/2 years. The reason for this was because of her way of life, cheating,dishonest in all aspect of life has no controle over herself.She did this until even my parents and realatives heard about her life. I've been holding up with her just because of the kid. When she understood that I do not care for what soever she does, she started poisoning the mind of the kid against me.She has all these friends who see me as a strict dad because I always used to check on the little girl to make sure she's home on time from school,not to get bad companies.So so ever I say no to thats what she lets her do.Her friends will come into the house when I'm not around telling her what to do in our own house.Upon their advice she took the and left the house one day without a ward to me. It took me over two weeks before I could find them.Living by themselves, she's just letting the kid go free as she herself.What can I do?
2006-12-29 06:18:43 · 9 answers · asked by hahol 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As fast as you can get a lawyer because if not this child will end up in trouble, not even to say even raped or whatever. Your wife seems to only care about herself and now it's your job to protect your child.
2006-12-29 06:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aslong as your girl is happy and safe with mum, then dragging it all out through courts can be horrible for all of you, especially if it means separating a mother and daughter. if she's unsafe however, get custody of her until mum sorts her act out.
as far as her behaviour is concerned, its simple...shes mentally trying to buy your little girls' love. by letting her do all the things (no matter how inappropriate) that you dont let her, shes acting more like one of her mates than a responsible mother that a girl of that age needs. believe me mate, i was that "little girl" only a few years ago and being torn between your parents is a nightmare. so, just let your daughter have a bit more freedom but still keep to the boundries. maybe try and talk to her and explain these things, without bad-mouthing mum...if you avoid doing that she'll start to get wise to the fact that mum always talks ill of dad but dad never does it back. that'll start grating on her in time, and you'll find she'll probably start defending you when mum says those things!!
anyway, by doing those things she'll eventually learn that you are being cautious because you care. as cliche as it sounds too, it is, 'just a phase'. hope this helps :)
2006-12-29 06:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by hana woo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only so much but you have been doing what you think is right and you should feel proud of that.Your daughter may not get it right now and the freedom her mom is offering her will only lead to problems and some times we can't protect our kids from the choices they make.If you don't want to go the law route than all I can say is keep open communications with your daughter and let her know you stand by your rules and she has to respect them,if she still chooses to run wild her actions will lead her to the knowledge one day that you were right and her choices were wrong,what else can you do ?Blessings to you for trying to be a good dad,the world could use more of you.
2006-12-29 06:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to gain custody of the child and hopefully things will turn out for the better. Other than that I wish you all the luck in the world
Even with Custody she has had her mother as a role model for this amount of time ...
what you might be able to change might be limited at this point.
Sorry you have to go through all this
2006-12-29 06:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer today do not wait, and get custody of your child and then be a good dad until she is grown. That means you'll have to put your love-life on hold until then. If your child is in danger prove it and take her away where she can be safe but do it legally.
2006-12-29 06:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a custody agreement? If so, is your ex in violation of that agreement? You may need a lawyer to sort this out. Otherwise I am not sure what you can do in this situation.
Best of luck. Your daughter is lucky to have you looking out for her.
2006-12-29 06:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
file for divorce and seek full custody. she poisions the child's mind so the child will not want to go live with u, she certinly has thought of everything hasn't she, u will need a good attorney.
2006-12-29 12:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and file for custody. Technically she doesn not have custody without papers.
2006-12-29 06:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by mothersister_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i think i would know. when you go to bed just pretend that they're there with you and it might help. until then pray to god. ask him to help. beleive me he will. SO GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-29 08:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋