Recently I've introduced my 2 best friends to each other. We've all been hanging out alot but lately they starting to make plans without me. I'm starting to feel left out. They both do things together. I either hear about their plans last or thru the grapevine. I have told them both how i feel. They said they sorry if it seemed that way but it is not how they see it. They saying that they never meant to hurt me & sorry i feel that way. Now i feel stupid but they continue too make holiday plans without me etc. I really don't know how to handle the situation now? They my 2 closest friends & now they seem to be best buds with themselves. We are all over 25yrs old, and this must seem very immature but it still hurts. I find it difficult to trust people and don't feel like starting all over again to find a best friend. What would you do?
2006-12-29 05:38:34 · 3 answers · asked by angelface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All over 25 huh? Yeah, it does sound a little immature, however, losing a friend still hurts. Sounds like you have created a monster and don't know what to do with it. You have introduced two people who seemed to have hit it off right away. I can see why you would feel left out because they are in fact, excluding you. Whether they mean to or not isn't really an issue. You have talked to them about it and let them know how you feel. Their behavior hasn't changed. I am assuming that these are both females. there is the obvious thought of an attraction between the two of them that they may want to keep private. However, if that isn't the case, then they are just being rude and thoughtless. You didn't say how long you guys had been best friends, but it sounds like quite a while.
From their actions, I think your best bet is to move on without either of them. They have shown that your friendship doesn't mean much to them, and you are obviously a better friend than either of them.
It is a shame to have them acting as they do around the holidays, but it could be a good time to just break away from them and find other friends. Your question indicates that you are a good friend to have and that you are a sensitive and loyal person. I am under the impression that you value friendship and that you probably make friends easily.
It is very hard to do, but move on and find other friends. You may find that your next best friend is closer than you think.
Good luck.
2006-12-29 05:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by David L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey don't fight it if so let it be.Try to make your self more available to hang. If you are available and they still don't invite you. Then your not crazy. A 3 some is hard to keep up with. Its easy for someone to feel left out. try to hang more but if that doesn't work find some new buds.
2006-12-29 05:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave them be and live my life!
2006-12-29 05:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋