If my wife tells my cousin that she wants to have sex and tells him how she likes it and what all she does is that considered cheating or am I overreacting
2006-12-29 05:35:55 · 61 answers · asked by young grown man 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is emotional cheating. There is a line being crossed and you are not over reacting to want your partner, in this case, your wife, to be faithful to you. You do need to be clear of these expectations from the start of your relationship. You can't have two sets of rules, it applies to you as well.
Tell her how you feel and get counseling. This is unacceptable behavior on her part. Your cousin is being a pig as well. Gross.
2006-12-29 05:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by choice478 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you witnessing that should show you that you wife needs a lil loving from you. Although it sounds weird that she would share that personal information with your cousin. It doesn't seem like shes cheating I think she just needs you. Plan a romantic evening and end the night by making love so that she wont ever have to talk to your cousin like that again. She and probably you need a lil loving. Good luck and have fun!
2006-12-29 05:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by shy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. As long as nothing physical happened between your wife and your cousin, I would have to say no. If she says she is very seriously considering this (if you are her husband) I would have to have a serious talk with her. I would tell her she is very close to crossing the line. Please get help, or she might hurt both of you so much the marriage can't be saved. God Bless you and Good Luck.
2006-12-29 05:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by youngladyintxsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I isn't necessarily cheating. But it does sound like cheating is about to happen if your cousin is open to doing that. That behavior is definately unacceptable and shouldn't be happening. I don't think you are overreacting at all with being upset with that situation.
2006-12-29 05:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by MarissasMama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Rawrrr:
It isn't considered cheating since she hasn't done anything physical with your cousin. However, this type of behavior is NOT acceptable for a wife. I tell my clients that communcation is key and in this situation I stress, that you sit down with your wife and talk with her about your feelings, and perhaps get into counseling. As for those who say it is just talk / like cybering. Cybering is cheating too in some relationships. If it isn't consentual between the partners (both find cybering ok) then it is cheating! The same goes for those who are poly, they may find having more then one sexual partner ok, but if their life partner isn't poly and isn't ok with them having more then one partner then it is still cheating. I can't stress COMMUNCATION enough in this situation.
2006-12-29 05:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsboi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not overreacting. Why should she be talking about sex with your cousin ? To me its as good as cheating.
2006-12-29 05:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your over reacting.
Look, All she is doing is explaining a human nature fact that everyone likes things different than the next person and is explaining her own likes or dislikes as a fact of comparison,and she is also mostly explaining that she is different than a common stereo type that women are mostly frigid and don't like sex much.
If she says she wants to have sex with him and starts to tell him how she wants to do so then it still isn't cheating unless she does it.But it would be weird and something to worry about if she just desired it with him.
2006-12-29 05:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion that is cheating same as cybering obviously she is feeling that you aint giving her enough attention or something man if she is talking to you cousin like that hell thats just wrong ... I have been married for 10 years and I have never even talked to a women like that since I met my wife. I have a friend thats wife was saying stuff like that to a friend of theres and it turned out she was cheating in full blow aspects of cheating and she divorced him and moved in with his best friend ...
SO YES IN MY OPINION SHE IS CHEATING
2006-12-29 05:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by cliff_aka_colt_4_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is in the eye of the beholder. Some people think having sex is cheating others think checking someone out cheating..its up to you
2006-12-29 06:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinhk that the cheatin will soon begin. Why is it neccessary for your wife to tell your cousin the mysteries of your bedroom? How did they even begin to communicate in this manner? Watch your wife. ITS CHEATING IN ITS FIRST STAGE
2006-12-29 05:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by toonice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋