When somone you honestly love dies you....?

Question

Can you describe in depth how it feels when someone you love more than anything else dies. The emotional part. what it phyically
felt like. Everything.
I'm writing a book and I need another person's story about how it felt when someone died. I would like to have an outside approach on it rather my crappy story.
well thanks!!!

Answer 1

you can contact me if you need me, I can help you with my story..
I lost my fiancee in a car accident 10 days before Christmas 2 years ago, after been together for 3 years and grew up together..
i don't know exactly what you want to know, but when i received the news it was a weird feeling, it was like a part of me was in me and another one was looking at something else.
I was at the door and my parents came to tell me.. I felt so small and like a wind of air in my chest, you refuse to believe.. you want it to be a really terrible dream, you even try to find the weirdness of that reality that can point that you are actually in a dream.. but everything is still real.. eventually i started feeling the air, the little noises that was pointing at the fact that it was true.
you don't want to talk with anyone, just want to close your eyes, but even going to sleep hurts, the anxiety is way to pain full, its the most terrible feeling Ive ever experience, and same feeling when you wake up, its living for a nightmare without waking up...
I had to take pills and I went to the psychiatrist.
In a funny way I was numb at the funeral reception, the only thing that I was looking for it was for everything to be as he would have liked it to, everything else it was to loud, to many people, to much of everything..
Don´t hesitate to ask me anything, I would love to help you, I feel I would be honoring his life.

Answer 2

there's no words. tht is the bottom line. how about u stab ur self in the heart if u survive maybe u can use tht to describe it. at the moment in time tht is hapens. u cld be shot and not feel it. blankness. nothing. silence. u knw wats happending around but ur lifeless to react. u wont to laugh. as if its a sad twisted film ur watching. the laugh of irony. y fuking me ?! no... not tht. its more like.. y couldnt it hav been me? theres almost a gap frm tht second on in ur life to the point where u give up caring. and who even came up with the u'l get over bull **** needs to hav their heads examined. one evry year for 6 years straight. and by the time the next person had died, i was still gulping down the lesser excistance of the last. bad emo poetry ? maybe. but writing helps, does for me talking about it, doesnt, no one else understands. the best thing to do is embrace it let death become u. become as morbid as a roting corpse in the end evry time u hear or see death, u shrug it off.

Answer 3

We had mulitple deaths within our family in a nine month period. Grief is such a complexed thing to go through. It all depends on the person. It did change our family forever. It's not the same. Some families it brings them closer together, but yet others it tears them apart! Some will start to "self medicate" such as taking drugs or drinking. Some will not understand others and personally attack the other person because they don't understand that everyone goes through grief differently. It's such a personal experience. No one goes through grief in the same way. All we can do is try to understand and help each other through the pain.

Answer 4

There are a million things that one feels when they lose someone they love, but I think the most overwhelming emotion I went through was the moment of utter hopelessness I felt when the knowledge that there was nothing I or anyone else could do, and that nothing would ever be the same, hit me like a ton of bricks.

Answer 5

For so long, Someone I loved very much was my whole life. Everything I did had a connection to her. Even when we were on seperate sides of the world. When she died, it seemed as if not only a part of my life was gone, a part of myself was gone as well. Everything was empty and pointless. If she wasn't a part of it, why do it? I have since fallen in love again but she's still missing.

Answer 6

My best friend died last year and i am completely lost! i go to reach for the phone and realize i can't talk to her anymore. She was one of the best people i know. she would light up the room and always the life of the party. i feel at time empty and yet at the same time i feel thankful and grateful to have been able to know someone so special. I know she isn't suffering anymore and i will see her again someday and that gives me peace.

Answer 7

My grandpa died 4 years ago and I was in denile.I'm right now realizing that it's true and I was seeing a school counsler but don't worry I'm ok and out of denile .I try not to think about it.I'm going to tell you something he told me once "The greatest mistake you can make is fearing that you'll make one"

Answer 8

when you first hear the news, you don't cry. you just can't believe it. then the emptiness settles in. it's an emptiness that nothing and no one can fill, not even your closest friends or family members. you're helpless because you want the feeling to go away but at the same time, you just want to dwell in it for a long time. at least your memory of your loved one is kept alive.

Answer 9

I don`t know how else to describe it other than it felt like half of my soul was gone and I was somehow incomplete.

Answer 10

i know that things are hard for you but things happend just keep praying and know that the person that past will want you to be strong i have lost my brother,father, 2 grand mother 1 grandfather & friends so stay strong they are all angles now......