is it foolish if you love someone who doesnt love you?

Question

since the time (2 years ago) that i met her, i cant let my eyes on another woman. She comes close to me and get distance continuously. We have kissed several times. I love her and dont want to think of anyone else and have decided to love her the rest of my life. she even told me once that she doesnt love me but i dont take it serious and keep going with my feelings.
Will i be able finally to make her love me too? or it is just foolish?

Answer 1

I've read several of your questions and together it seems that you are so obsessed with this woman you can't see straight.

She knows that you care for her, but I think you're a turning her from you because you focus too much on her. She will not love you back ore even like you if you are too obsessed with her.
It can even scare her.

You can improve your relationship with her if you behave differently. Here's what you should do (even if you don't wish to do it or it doesn't make sense)..............

Date other women, just to see how they behave. You do not have to like them, just go out with other women for a while. Do not stay at home and think of your girlfriend because you will be depressed.

Your 'girlfriend' will begin to see that you have other options and she will begin to like you more.

Answer 2

I don't know if it's foolish. Painful, yes, sometimes it can be, but foolish?

We learn from all the loves we have. If loving this girl has made you a better person, then go for it.

I don't know if I would believe that she doesn't have feelings for you. You say you have kissed on several occasions. For me, at least, that would mean something. I don't let just anyone kiss me, let alone multiple times. Maybe she's in denial.

Lastly, you are what you love, not what loves you back. You can choose to love her and enjoy it, even if she doesn't care for you. Again, it just may be painful.

Answer 3

Well,what can I say love is really strange.I understand that u really do love her...but sweetheart don't be a dog that can't do without her.U know most girls just want guys to be after them like dogs..to show others that u can't do without them.I bet there's someone out there that will accept your love,and caring for you feelings...in return.In this world remember u can't make someone heart for them..but u can love and care for them.And..look closely into it..she probably have an eye on someone eIse and trying to have u like a pussy boy.I think its not foolish to love someone that doesn't love u but don't let that person feel your love is so strong u can't move without them.At the same time u don't want to be ignored or look like u're nothing.For there r many more fishes in the water.Good luck..in whatever u do.Be smart..but not a smartass..don't try being a smartass with certain girls

Answer 4

You should move on and trust that YOU yourself deserve more than unrequited love.

There is someone out there who is as eager to give you love as you are to give love to this woman who doesn't want it.

Be aware, that sometimes a woman enjoys the attention and will give you JUUUST enough attention (kissing, etc) to make sure you don't move on to someone else in life. That doesn't mean she loves you or that you have a chance, just that she's selfish and enjoys being the center of your world.

Take it serious, if she said she doesn't love you and trust that there is a world full of lonely women who would love the affections you are pouring on that woman.

Once you've found the right person, you WILL look back and be thankful you didn't get stuck with the person you thought was "it".

Answer 5

My friend what happens is the following:
You love her a lot, however you need to be sure if she feels the same for you.
Otherwise you´re going to suffer a lot, just because the both of you have diffent feelings values for each other.
Once you be sure of what she feels for you, go deep in the relation, but don´t forget that to love someone else, we have to love ourself first, to become a good relationship it´s necessary to have respect and sincere from the two of you.
Make your intentions clear, let her know very clearly what your intentions are..and if she correspond to your feelings...let things flows...On the other hand if you realize that you are giving too much love and see no evolutions in the relationship...you´d better think twice before going deeply in this feeling.
I had love a woman for around 8 (eight) years...that right that I was a little boy...but this girl didn´t look at me the way I was looking for her, up to the day that I decided to show this feeling off for her and be straight to the point(women like it) and explain what I was feeling...for her to think about if we could go on..turned my backs to her..and guess what ? on the following day she called me for we to meet..she said she had thought about what I said and she wanted to keep a serious relations with me..so I advise you to try to do the same...good luck !

Answer 6

Its not foolish to love someone who does not love you back, however you need to be honest with yourself, knowone can make anyone love someone, so let that idea go. You need to remember that it is possible to love more than one person, so give yourself some time and distance from this girl and you may have a different perspective. Get yourself out there and find someone who has the capacity to love you back! It's self destructive to keep hoping and you need to examine why you're hanging on to someone who is hurting you.

Answer 7

i define love as acceptance
so it is OK to accept someone who does not accept you.

But i think you are NOT talking about real Love (which is unconditional acceptance ) ....you are talking about romantic attachment and possession and needyness.

GROSS

the next part is rougher and starts with the suggestion that you walk into the bathroom..... look yourself in the mirror and
B I T C H slap yourself and say "hey wussy boy smarten up" ! ok you awake? Bro.........please! There are 3 billion woman out there and you are the s h i t! Keep acting like a wussy bag and no woman will touch you look at you or think about you the way you are thinking about this girl.

LET IT GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No chick is better then you! This is the key - i wish someoen taught me this many years ago! Just coz they are cute and have nice body parts...big f-ckin deal. They are not better then you. Now that does not mean we are better then them ....it just means THEY are not better then you. AND you are acting like this girl is.

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Answer 8

It sucks when the person we love doesn't love us back. We can't make them love us. you can only hope that if it is meant to be between the two of you everything will work out. Just be there for her and show her you care but don't be pushy, you may lose her forever. Would you rather have her in you life as a friend or would you rather be without her completely?

Answer 9

You have wasted 2 years of your life already, it is gone, wasted, you will someday look back and wonder why you didn't realize this and move on. Life is too short, you can never go back and relive the time that you spent on this toxic relationship. You could use some therapy to help you through this period in your life.

Answer 10

You can't make a person love you, no matter how hard you try. But like you said, you can't really tell based on her mixed signals. So, you need to give her an ultamatum: give her the choice of loving you, or you leave. It may be painful, but wouldn't it be more painful to see her marry someone else, and have kids with them, while you're still playing "she loves me, she loves me not" with flowers?