still scared any way to help?

Question

i was 12 when it happend and now im 15 and scared to death about it. is there any way for me to get over it. i never want to go back to where it happened plz help me. i would like to know what to do to get over it.

sorry i forgot to mention i was kidnapped and i got a way

Answer 1

There are some things that you should ask yourself, I think. When I read your question, I thought of a quote from a special social studies teacher I had last year:

"If you have a challenge, deal with it, learn from it, grow stronger for it, and move on..." -- Mr. S

1. Did you ever REALLY deal with what happened?
It's never going to go away if you never addressed it. Try talking to someone you trust -- a teacher, friend, family member, psychologist, counselor, anyone (you have more support than you realize). Write down what happened, and include your feelings and thoughts -- take something negative and turn it into something positive by maybe writing a short story, or even a book about it. Listen to music, it can be very healing because it's another way you can use your senses to release something bottled up inside. Find other people who have encountered this kind of problem, or something similar, and create a support group. You can do this, you just need to make yourself available and let others know that this is your story, and if they share their story, both sides may feel better. Basically, you need to reach out to others -- someone has to start, why not you?

2. If you have done anything about this, what have you done, and what were the results (positive and negative)?

Whether you've realized it or not, I believe you have grown stronger -- you always gain inner strength when you face something overwhelming. You always have it inside you, sometimes it just takes a huge event to bring it out. Remind yourself that although it has impacted you greatly, it's nothing more than something in the past. "Nothing is farther away than five minutes ago" -- that's a quote I read somewhere, I forget the name of the person. If you need help letting go, then reach out. I think the most you can do to help yourself is to reach out to others who would be able to maintain a somewhat constant physical presence in your life.

Eventually, you'll need to move on in order to fully experience life with your unique talents. No one's forcing you to move on, but you need to understand that you can't let something like this ruin your life. "God only places challenges on those who He knows will over come them." Just keep it in the back of your mind that you have to eventually move on, and you will, but don't force yourself to do it. It'll take time, but once you have completely moved on, you'll be able to look back and say "that wasn't so bad, I got through it." Just hold onto that moment, but also live every moment you've got now to the fullest. Another teacher once told me, "All you have is right now."

I hope I've been able to help you out in some way. I wish you all the best, and happy new year! Believe in yourself, because no matter how much others believe in you, it will mean nothing if you don't have faith in yourself. ^_^

Answer 2

Find a very nice adult with whom you can talk. Usually this involves money if you go to a professional, but you can ask through your church. It doesn't cost anything... the pastor should be able to help you, if you belong to a church... at least to direct you to the right person. Usually churches have someone who does pastoral counselling...and those people and those people can be remarkably good.... and DON'T GIVE UP! Keep talking with them, even if only a little is accomplished each session.... over a period of weeks it will begin to take shape ...Even if you do not belong to a church, you might try to ask for help. I have done that ... and it worked very nicely. The person who met with me and talked with me had just the right thoughts to share ... and that was the end of that problem!

I have situations like that. I am all grown up and yet if I even look at certain places I have been, I feel the worst waves of nausea ... I don't want to ever go bach there. While I may never be able to get over what I feel, I certainly can avoid going there or even thinking about it. There are things in life ..... even people we once knew .... that we must skip. It's ok... the world is very large.

Answer 3

It would be easier to answer if I knew what it was. But, remember you are not alone. There is someone you can talk to, in a church (and you don't have to be a member of a church to talk to the pastor), at your school or just at some form of crisis counseling. But you do need to talk to someone. You are too young to cope on your own. Often, just talking about it will help, a cathartic reaction. Please, talk to someone, now.

Answer 4

i dont know what you are afraid of but i can guess that it is really terrifying. something horrible happened to you to be so scared. well what i can say is that, only one way to get rid of your fear is to face your fear. so i will advice you to tell your parents or school counsellors or teachers about it. they will help you get a justice, then you can go to the scary place and not be scared anymore. who or what made you scared can be equally punished and then you can move on with your own life. remember no one is above the law, so you will get your justice.

Answer 5

well what happened? I believe if you dont visit the place it will stay there b/c its still in your mind and you are not sure what to do about it. earlier the better get it out when you go back everything will be ok and you will not worry about it anymore, gl hf HNY

Answer 6

I think first step is to talk to someone!!! you'll feel better after saying this for the first time at loud....
maybe to a psychologyst or a close friend
HELP YOURSELF
YOU KNOW WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO FEEL BETTER YOU'RE JUST AFRAID!!

Answer 7

talk it out. either with a trusted friend or a parent or a professional. get it out into the open. this may help.