After 6 years living together we seperated on veteran's day. he cheated on me twice. i have decided to accept my best friends marriage proposal. we have been friends for over 10 years and i know we can have a wonderful marriage. we love each other and relationship. How do I tell my ex-partner that i am getting married with out hurting him more. Because of work we have to deal with each other at least once or twice a week. I still care about my ex-partner but I know that it will never work out. My best friend is a wonderful loving man who has been around waiting for me for almost 10 years.
2006-12-29 05:05:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only thing you can do is to tell him. Don't feel guilty - it is a reality that he has to face on his own - you're not trying to hurt him. He's a grown man. He'll be okay. Just enjoy n appreciate your faithful best friend.
2006-12-29 05:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by CHERRYBLOSSOM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 03:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dominic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you bother in telling him??...if you already move on from that relationship that obviously if he cheated on you twice was hurting you more, then put the past behind you and act like is none of his business...which isn't. If you make a big deal out of this ..he will probably think you have feelings for him and you are getting married just to get back to him!..
2006-12-29 05:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you are getting engaged right after getting out a relationship. I believe you are on the rebound ... you are probably using this to avoid the hurt he's given you -- since you stayed with him after being cheated on twice ... whoa
I say try being honest with yourself before you tell either man anything. You need to bring yourseld to reality before you try getting married.
2006-12-29 05:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*** i think the first chick who answered is right...just tell him. the thing i question tho' is...are u SURE about this marriage? i'm not saying he's not a great guy, and i'm not saying u shouldn't marry him. i'm just wondering... are u SURE?! you lived w/ your ex 6 yrs...it's been over since veterans day...and now BANG...you're marrying your friend?! i'm thinkin u might want a little time to breathe first. but hey, that's just me.
2006-12-29 05:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by meme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? You are marrying someone else. It is what they think that should matter, not the old boyfriend. Just tell him, or don't. It really isn't any of his business anyways.
Or...do you secretly hope that when you tell him he will tell you he still loves you and wants to marry you. If that is the case...seek professional help.
2006-12-29 05:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by trovanhawk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all...congrats on your marrige proposal...just one word of advice...if you still have feelings for you ex partner then the marrige is not going to work...i think you should just tell him becuase either way he is going to have to deal with loosing you...you might not talk for a couple weeks(dont be shocked by this) but you must wait till hes ready to accept that your gone and unavailable...i hope this advice helped...
2006-12-29 05:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by genna y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must be honest with yourself. If you are that worried about it you must still have feelings for him. Think it over very carefully before you make a very big mistake. I don't think you need to be with someone that cheated on you but you don't need to marry someone that you don't truly love either.
2006-12-29 05:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by DL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Just tell him that you care about him but you know that nothing will ever happen between you two again and that you love your best friend. Tell him that you aren't trying to rub it in his face you just wanted to let him know.
2006-12-29 05:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lori J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the very same boat, I decided not to tell him though. I will let him find out on his own if he even does. I mean after all it isn't any of his business, now is it?!
2006-12-29 05:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋