i don't get this one: you either like someone or you don't - at least that's what I think
so, what do you say
thanx
2006-12-29 05:01:56 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It means he doesn't want to be in a "committed relationship" and something more like just sex or a good time.
2006-12-29 05:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness he is being honest. More power to him. You should appreciate his honesty and understand it means exactly what he says and this will more than likely never change. There are so many guys out there who will just use you for what they can get from you. You don't need a guy like this either.
Back to the question- you have two choices: 1) Tell him you can maintain a fun dating freindship and understand this before going in to it with him. Talk honestly all the time... about all kinds of things in life. This means a friend to do things with- movies etc. Always go dutch- you pay your way or if he does you tell him you are paying next time. Do not let yourself get involved in any other way or you alone are setting up yourself to be hurt.
2) I imagine you like him a little but understand that is not everything- you must 1st protect yourself if you dont feel strong enough for friends only. Do not get involved with him in any way at all if this is the case. Just hellos at school are enough.
Remember- dating is to be fun and to learn about the type of qualities you like in a potential mate. Don't have the attitude that you are to fall in love and maybe even be married. It takes a lot of getting to know the kind of guy you need for yourself before that takes place. Cute doesn't last by the way, so what you should look for is good charactor. Now, most importantly- go and take care of getting to know yourself as this is the most important thing for you to learn before developing a long term possible life time relationship. Take time to like who you are and be proud of who you are as a person inside. Find the career that will benefit you and your future family in life. Go have fun but keep away from the serious side while maintaining a pure relationship that you will be proud of.
2006-12-29 13:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by lindasue m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's quite a gap between liking someone to wanting to make them your wife. Liking is a pretty superficial emotion actually. Not that it's bad, but honestly, how many people do you like for one reason or another, even people in the news, for instance. You don't really know them personally, but they strike you in such a way that you're inclined to like them. Liking can be the farthest thing from love, or the closest, depending on the intensity of your feeling for the other.
2007-01-01 02:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once liked someone, he is so fun to hang out with. But i just can't picture him as a husband. Because, I feel that he is not ready yet to be a husband (with all the qualities i hv in mine of a good husband. eg: not mature yet, too much fun, not responsible enough to be a breadwinner in a family, etc).
So, just wait, maybe after some times he will be able to picture you as his wife ( but might be not ).
(my point is: there are some other reason why he said that. not just sex (like what others told you. not all guys are a jerk))
2006-12-30 02:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Olive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is putting up defense's, escape clauses. to quote and old arkansas expression right now "He don't want to buy the cow, not when he is getting the milk free" If he is getting "free milk" continue to give him all he can handle, then when he is addicted to it, then tell him your price for it, if he doesn't believe it is worth your price, find another market. Two people come together in infatuation,which only lasts a short while, if they do not build a mutually satisfactory relationship when the fever is Gone so to is the relationship.
2006-12-29 15:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Weldon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is what a man may deem as a polite way of saying "yeah, I'd hit that" but doesn't want a real relationship with that person. This man may want to be monagamous but he's in it for the sex and perhaps to take up some of his time, but it will not be a lasting relationship.
2006-12-29 13:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Dissolvo Rae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can find someone attractive and fun to be with in the present but no see them as possessing the qualities that would make them good as a wife..for example someone that likes goin out all the time an havin fun would be great fun to be with in the present but you wouldnt think that would make good wife material cos you may think about having a family (and thus settling down)
2006-12-29 13:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by James W 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well he's probably noticing somethings about her character/habits/beliefs that make a longterm commitment like marriage seem like it wouldn't work. Most people are actually not mature enough to realize that these things are important for a longterm commitment so its good that he thinks this way.
2006-12-29 13:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♫ giD∑■η ♫ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many possibilties to this one. He probably wants to see what's out there first before making any commitments. If you really want to be with him, try not to force him to commit. If you do that, then hearts will be broken. Don't try to keep him as your own. Let him have air. Just be a good friend to him & one day, it will hopefully be worth it. Good luck.
2006-12-29 13:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy and a life coach I would say this is a guy that wants to have you as "eye candy" on his arm, but is not intrested in marrying you. Kinda like the phase "a girl I can date but not one I would take home to meet my mom". OR it could mean this guy likes you as a friend but not anything deeper then that. My advice ask HIM what he means. Communication is key to understanding...
2006-12-29 13:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by sweetsboi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋