I posted a question about an hour ago. Some answers were excellent. Some answers were of people chewing me out. Well, I basically need to know how to walk away from two relationships that have their good and bad elements right now.
HOW TO WALK AWAY. The reason why these relationships are so hard to let go of, is because I have a dying parent that I am helping care for. I am a full time student. I work full time in the healthcare field. I am a mother of four. I am married, but filed for divorce because my husband was very selfish and was not meeting my needs, despite me meeting his. I got emotional support from his cousin that led to a relationship (hubby & I were/ are seperated), and now hubby is trying to make up for the errors & does not want to divorce.
I'm seeing them both (they are not aware). I am an emotional wreck from all the stuff going on in my life. The attention from the 'relationship's eases my anxiety. But I know it's dangerous & bad.
How do I end it with 1 or both
2006-12-29 04:55:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have so much on your plate without all this stress! I think you should tell them both that you need some time away to figure out what you want for yourself. Not just a few days, a few weeks or even months would do you good. Concentrate on working through the other issues going on in your life. I know it's difficult, but you'll feel better about yourself in the long run.
2006-12-29 04:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I imagine you are at wits end. I'm sorry for you. I would say due to emotions, and to ease the conflict; try to break it off with the cousin right now. Just talk to him and explain why. Tell him you still have feelings for your husband; but your not sure you want to take him back. Tell him right now, you just can't handle anything else on your plate and that if you and he got together; your husband would just make bad things worse.
Your in a bind and I know you probably need the money support from the cousin; but could you handle the storm that would come with it? I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-29 13:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would end it with the cousin and try to work it out with the hubby. he is the father of your children and at least deserves another chance to make his family work. the cousin will always be there. often times when you are in a bad relationship, the "grass is greener" comes into play. it's easy to see how much fun it is to be with someone new and how good they treat you when you've been treated like dirt for so long. if your hubby really thinks that he can do right by you, give him the chance. you're just going to have to tell the cousin goodbye. i'm sure that they will understand you decision to want to keep your family together if at all possible.
2006-12-29 13:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly but with limited information.
Be honest with yourself first! You know you should hold off on both relationships but don't want to. If they can be supportive or not they are a distraction right now. Tell them that you love them (or the attention) but you need time to deal with the rest of your drama (dying parent, kids, etc.) Both men should understand that you need some space to think. If not then they need to piss off. You can do much better when you are in the right frame of mind.
Best of Luck!
2006-12-29 13:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are very selfish with" ho type ", tendencies you're going to get some one hurt playing with people's emotions. You are wrong for sleeping with anyone else not to mention youre still legally married .What goes around comes around.
2006-12-29 13:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by gipdeezal32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about mind over matter. Stick with what's more important to you and let the rest go. It's not as hard to do as you may think it is.
2006-12-29 13:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋