I have been dating him for 9 months. For the most part he is really good to me. I just don't feel for him the way I felt for my ex. My problem is my ex was terrible to me, keep in mind I will never go back to him. I want to know if those feelings can grow for my current boyfriend. Am I settling or should I move on?
2006-12-29 04:53:34 · 6 answers · asked by Dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Only you know whether or not you are settling...but if you are not satisfied feeling the way you do for this guy then perhaps you should move on. He should have the opportunity to be with someone who is head-over-heels crazy for him, as should you.
If you fear you are settling, you probably are. I've been there...I won't do it again. I don't recommend it to anyone.
2006-12-29 05:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, Dee, but, you are comparing your abusive ex to your new guy. You are probably so used to being hurt that when you actually find someone who was the opposite of that, you do not know what to do.
I think you should sit down and talk to your current boyfriend and explain that with all that abuse, that you are so use to it, that you are a little weary of all of the things he is doing for you.
Others may tell you to move on; but, you need to talk to him and give it a little more time. If, for some reason, you know that this relationship is not going anywhere, just end it now. But, if you think that there is hope because of the ex that was terrible to you and the fact that you are probably use to that abuse. He may give you time and try to understand.
I hope what I said helps. Good luck. And PLEASE, DO NOT go back with your ex. Going back to him would be like wanting a hole in your head.
2006-12-29 05:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never settle, its been 9 months, end it and move on. the first year is mostly the happiest time in a new relationship because everything is new and exciting and if ur havin doubts and dont feel for him how u felt about a previous lover then hes obviously not the one for u. why waste more time when the man of ur dreams is somewhere else? gud luck hun
2006-12-29 04:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you want from the relationship. You need to be clear with yourself, try talking it over with your BF, the chances are that you are both treading water and dont want to commit to more.
It is possible that love will grow, equally that you might just continue, even for years then resent it, that you never should have stayed with your BF for just this long.
Good luck in all you do, happy in 2007
2006-12-29 05:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by kenjinuk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're comparing to him to your ex and asking this question in the same hand. re-think your relatonship-it's obvious that it is not the one for you and you need to end it now.
2006-12-29 05:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are asking this question then it is time to move on, it is obvious that this relationship is not working for you
2006-12-29 04:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋