My husband kicked me & the kids out; we tried to reconcile, just found he has a woman living with him.im.?

Question

He wont talk to me or the kids.What do I do .am so devasted.Luv him so much

Answer 1

That's men for ya. He has been probably carrying on behind your back for ages, men like this are not worth the bother. Make his life a misery so he is unhappy in his cosy little lovenest.

Answer 2

Forget reconciliation. You've no chance. The guy is not a mature adult. What woman in her right mind wants a grown up kid as well as the ones to whom she gave birth. Get on with your life. If you and the kids have good health that's a start. You make no mention as to whether or not you have a job. Maybe you stopped work when you had the kids. If necessary and you are able to retrain then get into the work scene as soon as you can as that will help you to become less devastated. Join a group like Gingerbread .. a single parents group. You may meet a guy there who has been left with his kids. If you are lucky to meet such a guy and you hit it off I feel you'll have made the best move in your life. Remember .. as from now you and your kids are important. Going back to a Dad who kicked them out because he fancies another woman will do them no favours.

Answer 3

First of all do you have your name on the house or apartment you were living in with your husband. If yes. You need to get a copy of it. If it's a apartment you lived in go to the manage today in get a copy or if a house go to the landlord or manager, or real estate place, go were you need to go to get a copy. And when you have that copy go down to the court house in file a re stain order on him and this other women. And when you get to the judge you tell want happen. Tell the judge this man though you out with your kids and placed a other women there. And you and your kids are living here in there.And all you want is your house back. And if your name is not on no deed or rental agreement do the same thing for a re stain order because this man you love has kicked you out illegally. Do you know that. You have rights. By law he had no legal right to kick you out. And you allowed this. As a women to women why in the hall you would allow a man to though you and your kids to the curb. Oh I forgot you love him.Girl you better get right. You need to read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger

Answer 4

Yes-i have no doubt that you are devastated-but ask yourself one question: what man can treat the mother-AND his children in this way? You must forget this other woman, she is surplus to your requirements here-and besides, when you take him to the cleaners...(WHICH YOU WILL!)-he will have no money left to spend on her, therefore she will soon get shot of him, no-your problem is that you love a guy that can flick you and your children off his jacket-as easy as flicking some fluff off-so you must be strong and do whats right for you and your children-their father doesn't care, so YOU must. Reconciliation?-forget it, its not going to happen and YOU know it-its nothing but a ruse, so move on hun, you and your children are worth more.

Answer 5

Get him into court a.s.a.p the Law puts the children's interest 1st and they will get you and the kids back in the house double quick. He will then have to move out and support you and the kids. he will soon find this bit on the side has been an expensive mistake. Then you can move on knowing your kids are tucked up in their own beds. As for loving him, forget it, he's made a complete monkey out of you.Good luck to you and your kids.

Answer 6

From now on think of yourself and the kids.

Find somewhere to live, get all the financial help you can from the authorities and be strong.
He is cruel and now you must realise that you are too good for him and don't need him as your partner.

You call the shots now.

There are lots of people in your situation, all together in spirit. There IS a light at the end of the tunnel, although you won't be able to see it yet.

Good luck and lots of love xxx

Answer 7

Do you have any idea how weak you sound?? This "man" threw you and his children out on the street and moved another woman in, and you are devestated because you still love him??? Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! HE IS A LOSER!!!! You are better off without him in your life.

What you do is.......move on with your life! Get an attorney, and take anything you can get from him! Take care of your children, teach them to respect themselves and other, and build a happy life for yourself and your children!!!! It will be different, it will be difficult, but you can do it! Use any resources you have (family, friends, church, etc....) and get on your feet!

Don't allow yourself to be devestated!! The Lord works in mysterious ways. This happened for a reason, and you need to make the best of it!!! He is not the one that God intended for you to be with!

Keep your head up, and be strong for those children! They need you more than ever right now!!!

Answer 8

That is totally illegal! I Know, dont ask i just do ok! He has to go, not you and kids. Get professional help. Better still call the police...Yeah thats right, call the police. It is the children more than anything that the courts think about for obvious reasons. CALL THE POLICE AND DO IT NOW!!! Look after yourself and importantly the children. Good Luck

Answer 9

Call the police and the courts and that can change. He cannot abandon either you or the kids legally. Are you so insecure that you would take this creep back? He is an idiot to take any problems with you out on his kids. Actions speak louder than words

Answer 10

Think about the kids first. Make them feel stable and loved. Sort your self out and forget about this looser.

Ignore him, when you don't give him any attention he'll come running and use the kids.

Kick him to the curb, through the courts and anywhere else it hurts him. The children will never forget this.