after spending a good xmas together he has told me as we are always arguing that he no longer sees me as the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He has suddenly got in touch with a friend he met a weddin abroad and will be staying there. He has behaved towards me in a way where there is no affection and just wants us to do things together like going out tonight to dinner with firends and do something new years eve. I want to call it off for me anyway as I feel sick and upset by his final decision. Do I ring the person who has invited us to dinner and explain why or should say I am not feeling well.
Oh by the way he says he still likes me but our relationship is over and I need to accept that.
He does not want ot give it another chance as I will never change ie moody. Help!
2006-12-29 03:48:34 · 19 answers · asked by Sani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's full of excuses and can't accept you as who you are, just leave him. You'll find a better guy! Don't ever ask him to be with you again or give you a second chance. Respect yourself. He dumped you! Go with you friends to the NY party, without him involved! Show him that life without him is perfectly FINE!
2006-12-29 04:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him firmly that you will not go anywhere with him. If you are no longer together, then to leave you alone. Don't spend another moment with him. He likes it that you feel terrible and he is enjoying the attention and his hold on you. Be strong even if you don't feel this way. Don't accept his calls either. You do not need top be around this confusion. Tell him you want a clean break. Tell your friend the truth. That you are no longer with this boyfriend and that it would be uncomfortable for everyone. Reschedule to go out without him. Whose friend is it anyway? Yours or his? Be strong. Don't let him ruin your New Year. And DON'T spend it with him!!!!! He is using you.
2006-12-29 04:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he didn't respect you enough to speak to you about his feelings before hand but has come to this conclusion in a self-centered way.Maybe its good you found out what kind of person he is before you did spend your future with him.I would call the person who has invited you and let them know you won't be coming or ask if its okay if you come alone.Do not let this person spoil your good times during the New years,let him go if he Loves you he will come back if not then be relieved you discovered he was not the one!and realize you are much more valuable then he could appreciate since he has chosen to focus on negatives and take the easy escape.
2006-12-29 03:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Get out now. Break up with him now. Call and inform whoever is having the dinner party that you can't make it because you two broke up. He might still go without you, so you can only confirm that you are not coming. Then move on with your life.
2006-12-29 04:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel up to it dont go,,make up something but dont involve others,,it isnt decent.it is sad but he does have a right to end a relationship if he doesnt want to be part of it anymore,,the same for you.he does however have a responsibility to do it nicely,,you are not a bad person you just are not the one he considers for him.things may change so try not to say or do anything stupid,,we all have at some point.
2006-12-29 04:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cancel plans with friends don't tell them why just say you don't feel good or something. As for him leave him alone stop spending time with him. He made his decision move on with you life
2006-12-29 04:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a short term AND a long term decision to make.
I would not go to dinner tonight and pretendi it's fine. It might be best to just stay home, eat chocolate and ice cream and watch a movie.
Long-term, if he says it's over, it's over. Let him go and prepare to get on with your life.
2006-12-29 03:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is over it's over hun. If you wanna go to dinner and do something New Years eve do it. If not then tell him and the friends you have made other plans. It is none of their business what those plans are.
2006-12-29 03:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He made his feelings pretty clear. I would probably want nothing to do with him anymore. Would also explain to the people who invited you for dinner that he is an a$$ and will not be accompanying you to dinner ever.
2006-12-29 03:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cancel at the last minute and do not give a reason. Let him spend the New Year alone.
2006-12-29 03:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋