What is it that makes itt so hard on you.
Family,friends,surrounding,co workers,religion?
Try to reply in a nonoffending way please.
2006-12-29 03:39:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have to say that I am not struggling with my sexuality, but that is only because I am straight. If I am not... It would be much different (of course).
My family would never accept that. They would deny me (my parents and brother for sure) for the rest of my life. I think my sisters would accept that, with time.
Friends... I presume... it would be different. I would still have my best one, because she is really irreplaceable. But, few years ago I was talking with other friend of mine and she said: I don't mind to have gay friends, but I wouldn't be comfortable with lesbian one.
Religion... That hardest part... That is really all I could say.
Human been could accept in the end, but religion would never do that.
Anyway... being gay is not choice but in genetic code. So, no matter how hard it would be I would have to accept what I am and to continue my life with people that are capable to understand me.
2006-12-29 23:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I am struggling with my sexuality. I am married, and have been for 7 1/2 years. However, I find myself fantasizing about sex with men. This bothers me because I am not attracted to men, but the thought of sex with a man turns me on (weird, I know). I do not want a relationship with a man, just sex. I want the relationship with a woman, because I am attracted to and want to be EMOTIONALLY involved with women. I am seeking counseling for this, and have recently "come out" completely to my wife (although she knew for quite some time).
Many want to label me as BI or even gay when they hear my story. My wife has posted questions on this very forum and ppl have responded with messages like "He's gay- you should leave". I do not feel comfortable with any of these labels. I feel as if I am heterosexual that would enjoy occasional sex with men. In denial? possibly.
The only thing I can tell you is to seek counseling, or find some other outlet for any feelings and concerns you may have. I have found through my own personal struggle that I AM able to talk to many more ppl than I ever thought I could, and have been fortunate enough to find nothing but support from the ppl I least expected it to come from. Good Luck, and God Bless.
2006-12-29 14:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is way too short to struggle with your own identity!
IF you allow yourself to become consumed with "pleasing" other people then the world is full of plastic people.
Accept who you are (gay or straight) and move on to try and make a difference in a screwed up world.
As far as religion goes, I believe in the 10 commandments & I am spirtual, not a Bible pusher.
One of the greatest problems is people being to focused on "others" and thinking only "they" know how to solve another persons "life" (even if that person has no problems).
Live & let live if all are consenting adults!
With how screwed up this world is, if ANYONE is lucky enough to find another who accepts them & loves them for the person they truly are, that is the greatest gift to be found in life.
2006-12-29 03:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by Acer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have always been a very different and unique person. not just sexuality, but everything in life. i've come to accept and even embrase being different. but at the same time, i have become very independant and self-sufficient. i have a tough time opening up and reaching out to people. i also have a tough time trusting others..
i am 32 and have never had a serious relationship and only had a few little sexual experiences.. i crave what i don't have. i want to be close to someone, both emotionally and physically. i want to be able to just let it all out and relax and feel totally safe and comfortable in the arms of another.. but that concept just seems so far off..
family and friends all seem to fit in. they are all married and happy and don't seem to have any of these issues.
religion doesn't play a major role in my life. i believe in the concept of God, but i don't openly reach out and join any particular religious group. i don't feel the need to slap any particular religious brand label on my forehead
2006-12-29 03:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I am not struggling at all. I am very comfortable with who I am. For the first time in a long time I have many friends and am truly happy.
I am very masculine so know one questions my sexuality nor is it any of their business. I tell anyone that asks but very few ever do.
I am not a very religious person but I do draw on religious teachings to form the fabric of who I am.
2006-12-29 03:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sometimes i struggle with it; i wish on occasion i was straight to make it easy for my family and generally in the world but then i know I'd be lying to myself. Don't
t get me wrong my family were extremely supportive in my coming out, in other words they sort of found out and asked me! I just think they'd prefer that 'perfect' man woman family thing.
I also have a friend who's quite religious and tends to ram it down my throat! (which i believe is wrong i mean what's free will for right?!) and she doesn't mind telling me often that being gay isn't right and that i'ma go to hell. I've not told anybody i work with as i'm afraid of being ridiculed and then that makes me feel stupid in that it appears I'm ashamed of being gay or something but I'm not i feel that i may still be too young to not care what other people think.
2006-12-29 04:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I am struggling. I've been struggling for the past 17 years. My friends have to do with it but it's mostly my family. They're strict and Vietnamese and are complete homophobes.
2006-12-29 14:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I am not. I decided that the people who were to have a problem with the way I was born don't need to be in my lives anymore. Luckily, no one had a problem with it so I lucked out I guess.
2006-12-29 06:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when I was a teen, and in my 20s I did. but as I got older I got more comfortable with who I am and accepted it, as have my friends, family and co-workers. and I have a wonderful partner as well.
2006-12-29 03:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Somewhat, I'm not completely out. I told a few friends but not my family yet. Everyone pretty much still thinks I'm straight
2006-12-29 03:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋