This is goign to sound awfull, but i have been a carrer for my mum who has M.S for 12 years, and now i am getting to the point where i cant cope, i have to put load music on my headphones to try and block out her in pain i have been trying to get a carrer in to help my mum still wont ring her up she keeps putting it off, and she always makes me feel like it is my responsbilty all the time, i also have social anexity disorder which makes even harder for me to go out, i am going to be 18 in aprill and i have never had a life of my own. i feel so trapped how do i get out?
2006-12-29 03:34:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand the sense to take care of her she is your mum but you have fully lost your sense of self. The best thing you can do is get in touch with an agency that can give you references of care nurses.If you can't make the call have someone else do it and you just sit by them. I understand the tendency to put on loud music but what that will do is frustrate you more.That music banging in your head will heighten your emotions.I'm not seeing you would ever hurt your mum but with that music surrounding you .You might just snap.Plus you still need time to be yourself.It's cool to like loud music but you should listen to it when you have time to enjoy it.Give yourself some freedom and get a nurse.Find out through your medical insurance. If you don't have some get some even if it is welfare.This is to much weight on your shoulders.I wish you all the best.Take one day at a time.Please don't pick the first nurse that shows up make sure she specializes in M.S patients. take care
2006-12-29 03:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom may not want others in the house to care for her but it is her responsibility to do so. However, since she will not, you should make an appointment with her doctor or call her doctor and ask about how you go about getting care into the house.
You should also talk honestly with your mother as you did with us and let her know how you feel, don't back down when she starts crying or telling you that she needs you.
You deserve a life of your own and your mother might not see that because of what she is going through. You should also see a counselor about how this has hindered your growth sociably and your social anxiety.
You should also take small trips out of the house like to the library, store, shopping, walking, etc. to be on your own whether she complains about it or not. Increase your time away from the house as you become stronger.
If you do not take care of this matter, you will become your mother without the decease, living at home, in pain, without the support of others.
Best of luck.
2006-12-29 03:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of this situation. I'd say that you should contact a carer. You are the most important person in the world (I know it sounds selfish, but if you are neglecting your needs, then eventually you wouldn't be in a good state to care your your mum anyway). Hope it all works out, good luck.
2006-12-29 03:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Chay D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with a counselor. Find someone whether it is a friend or relative to take some of the load for you. You are a very heroic person to be doing this,but you need a break also.
2006-12-29 03:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am so sorry to hear. For her hospice. For you respite care. Music has held me all of my life. Is a great vice. I can release emotions unscathed.. Damn. I hope you act on this. You are young. I was too then and now. Godspeed girl. Happy New year. To you both.
2006-12-29 03:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a caregiver yourself for her. Don't wait for her to do it.
People always think they owe thier parents something but as a parent, I feel I owe it to my kid to allow her to have a life. If I got sick, I would expect her to visit and help but I wouldn't want her to put her life on hold for me. Thats not fair.
Look up aome free counselling services in your area and they will help you with everything, from your social anxiety to your mom's care, to getting out and starting an adult life. You are way to young to be trapped like that.
Good Luck and God bless you and your mom.
2006-12-29 03:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by babygyrl_nyc 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
call up the person on your own. as much as you lover your mom, you need to start living for yourself. my mother took care of her mother starting when she was 5 years old, and it took a great toll on her, she sometimes had to stay home from school, and its emotionally stressful. pick a day, call the person, and call up any friends you have and GO OUT! i hope things work out for you
2006-12-29 03:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by whoops :) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 21:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋