Is it bad to keep your children away from your family if you know they have a history of violence and abuse. It is not that I think my children are better I just don't want them exposed to all the drinking, cursing and drugs, but they are older now and want to go. I don't want to put my families business out there but I just don't think it is a good environment for them.
2006-12-29 03:26:04 · 8 answers · asked by Marcella D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I come from a family with a similar background. I've always had my kids around them. We live differently at home, so they have had a strong moral upbringing. They enjoy my family and find them amusing, but they know the difference between right and wrong. I would let them hang out and see how the other half lives. People are just people and we are all different. As long as you are not putting them at risk and set clear boundaries as far as them drinking, it might be a good experience for them.
2006-12-29 03:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are older now and want to go then... you need to set them down and explain the reason you keep them away. Children should not be exposed to this environment if you can keep from it. In my opinion you have made the right decision.
2006-12-29 11:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your children about your family and let them know how it is. Of course you don't want to tell them if they are to young. It all depends on there age. You should be honest with them on your feelings and let them know all the facts. Family is hard to make choices about. You have to remember that your family is the most important. Good luck.
2006-12-29 11:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Wilma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have been protecting them from that side of the family for a long time. and now that they are older they want to go to see what it is really like. you are a parent and you have been doing is the right thing. i don't blame you at all. if they want to go let them. they will know their mistake when they have made it. i totally agree with you. but if they want to let them. how long will you be able to keep them away for. not very long.
2006-12-29 11:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your children and you are responsible for them.If you feel that it is the wrong environment for them then they don't have to be there. But if you are leaning on the more open side. Then go over with your children.Have a set time for when you want to leave.The kids probably just want to be with their cousins, so just have them come over and hang out.That way you have supervision,and they will have to respect your house.
2006-12-29 11:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are older and want to go, let them. They will make their own judgement about the family, and I'm confident you raise them correctly! In saying that, if the things about the family you say are true, they probably won't ask to go back.
2006-12-29 11:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking out for your children that is the first thing you did children first then family.
2006-12-29 11:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by derek_thomas71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are adults then there's nothing really u can do. for all u know ur kids be cussing, and drinking when ur not around!!! they have minds of there own and there gonna do what they wanna do regardless.
2006-12-29 11:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋