I haven't met my cousin for 6 years, and when i met her a few weeks ago she changed so much. the mental picture of her i had from the last encounter didn't remotely match her image now. She's beautiful. and after talking to her i felt such a stong connection and i want to take the whole thing a step further. but i fear that i would be ostracized by my family. what should i do? it's not incest (it's not less than 1 degree of seperation). and the risk of abnormal babies is just slightly bigger than that of normal couples? and the Bible didn't forbid this kind of relationship.
2006-12-29 03:17:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just a little more info. i'm 21 and she's 18.
2006-12-29 04:40:18 · update #1
Go for it. You're not harming anyone (remember that the fact that you're parent's may not like what their adult child does is not harm). About half the states in the country allow first-cousin marriages, and the Bible doesn't prohibit them, so they can't tell you it's a sin. It's natural to fall for someone when you have a lot in common, and shared ancestry means you have a lot in common, so you'd have fewer differences to overcome as a couple. Ultimately, only you will have to answer for what you do, not your family.
2006-12-29 06:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Eternal Mystery 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
May I assume you're under 25 yrs old?
Is she within 2 yrs of age to you if you're over 25?
Personally my opinion will be based on you not seeing her for 6 years, then all the sudden you're attracted to her. Which equates to a purely physical attraction.
As a 1st cousin, much of the ongoings in dating or meeting someone for the first time has already been bypassed, so of course some common connections are going to be easily pleasant.
At a younger age I went through the same thing with one of my cousins, but at the time I was quite mature for my age (18) and while I felt a physical attraction, I took it for what it was worth and understanding the situation, I never pursued what more or less was a fleeting feeling that wasn't worth the headache I would end up making for myself (her) or our entire extended family.
In other words I didn't think with my d!ck.
You're situation may differ to whatever degree, but as I assume you're fairly young, I must say that you've not been out in the real world much if you limit yourself to being interested in 1st cousins.
2006-12-29 11:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, don't do it. Back in my family tree, there was only one branch so to speak. 3 generations back there were some cousins that had children. The a lot of the kids had a mental disorder called pics syndrome. Its the same thing Gordie Howe's wife has. Anyway, the brain degeneration that occurred was very traumatic for the families to witness. Besides, she's like your sister. Can't you find another woman?
2006-12-29 11:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've done a lot of research on if it's ok to sleep with your cousin.
However, it IS incest. I couldn't imagine being attracted to my COUSIN!!!!
Anyway, to each his own.
P.S. In Illinois, I think it's OK to marry your first cousin as long as you are both over 50 (but that's only legal because of the assumpton that the woman can no longer have children at this point in her life). Don't laugh, I learned this in a college course.
2006-12-29 11:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not okay, it puts you, her and your family in an awkward position. Then what happens if the chemistry doesn't stay. You have created a family issue for no reason. There are millions of women in the world just as beautiful some even more so. Look at them and let family be family.
2006-12-29 11:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Marcella D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this is soooooooo wrong. Number one, how do you know she wouldn't beat you half to death if you try to get into her pants? Number two, OMFG, WTF are you thinking. I have a cousin who is totally hot, like 11 on a scale of 1-10, but; she's my COUSIN, I NEVER thought about dating her. Maybe ask your parents what they think about it. Or maybe your aunt & uncle........... Perhaps bring it up at the next big family get together; just say "Look everybody, I really wanna bang cousin Suzy and want to know if you are all cool with that" See how that goes. I hope this is NOT the 14 year old cousin from your other question.....................
2006-12-29 11:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Police 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Err.. move on.. when u're a teenager u can end up having the wrong crushes on the wrong ppl.. even in the workplace
U're FAMILY.. leave family as it is. I know ppl who are married and are first cousins. Sadly, their kids are actually a bit mentally strange so u don't wanna go there
2006-12-29 11:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by lyssaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world is becoming a sad place if we have to resort to dating our relatives.You need to calm your hormones down and realize this girl is your relative not another notch in the bed post.She is blood so find someone who you are not related to to try to bang.And if you can't then you may be destined to be alone.But stay away from your little cousin her dad my just take it upon him self to get the message across to you.
2006-12-29 12:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by sparky75us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its still weird! There are too many women in the world to try to date your cousin. Forget that you asked this embarrassing question and move on.
2006-12-29 11:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much cousin lovin going on around here.
2006-12-29 11:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋