literaly... one week he tells me "he loves me SO MUCH", and shows me. Everything is perfect, then less than 7 days later he says he loves me but he is not sure if he loves me enough to spend forever with me.
is there something i did?
how did that happen so quickly!?
am i missing something?
2006-12-29 03:17:40 · 19 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are married with a baby on the way
2006-12-29 03:30:52 · update #1
When is the baby due? If the baby is due very soon, then this may be a good explanation for his behavior. Men have a tendency to get scared when there is a big event looming in the near future, especially the birth of a child. They often can't express this fear because they don't want to look weak, so they do stupid things like tell their wives they don't love them enough to stay married to them. It sounds to me like this is your husband's problem. He is feel insecure and scared about bringing this baby into the world, so he figures if he leaves now, before the baby is born, he won't have to deal with those feelings.
Sit down and talk to him. Communication is very important. Tell him that you love him and that no matter what the problem is, you can work through it together. Let him know that he can talk to you and trust you with his feelings. If he won't talk to you, then maybe you need to seek professional counseling as a couple.
Best wishes and congratulations on the upcoming birth of your child!
2006-12-29 03:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not sure whether he wants to spend his life with you or not than he's not the one for you. There are different types of love. There is Puppy love. Friendship love, love out of Convenience, and Soul Mate (I can't live my life without you) love. Puppy love fades fast. You get that wonderful Getty feeling every time you think about that person or every time your around them and then one day it just disappears and your not so sure anymore. That's what this case sounds like. If your looking for a serious relationship and want to settle down I don't think this guy will be the right one for you. When you truly love someone there is no doubt in your mind that you want to spend forever together.
2006-12-29 03:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women tend to change the rules after they are confident about the relationship. They tend to stop doing all the things that they did early in the relationship that attracted the man. Men feel less loved and rejected when this happens. Rejection breeds anger and hostility in men...it's not hard to understand. Men often lack the willingness and ability to work through these difficulties. Communicting their feelings is not something they can readily do because they are conditioned to avoid showing their feelings of hurt. It makes them feel weak when they do. So they just walk away. It's easier for them to do than trying to fix it.
2016-03-28 23:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read an interesting article on the ivillage site. It said that men fall in love many times, and that the one they marry isn't necessarily the one they love the most. The key is that they marry the one who happens to come along when they are at a stage in their life when they are ready to settle down--career is stable, they've sowed their seeds, they are ready to have a family. So, timing is everything.
Another thing to consider is how long you have been with him. If it's been less than a year, then maybe things were moving too quickly.
2006-12-29 03:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women go thought this monthly cycle that drives men nuts. Men go through a similar process, but it is an hourly cycle. He didn't fall out of love in a week. It took a day or 2 at the most.
2006-12-29 03:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This goes both ways, by the way. Women can do the same thing.
Regarding your question, your beau obviously loves you but isn't in the right moment in his life to totally settle down. Take it slow on this one . . . if possible.
When I hear things like this it always makes me a little sad. It sounds like "right girl/boy - wrong time"
2006-12-29 03:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen you are quite fine. men are the problem. some of them that is. so he loves you today and not so much tomorrow. some men tells you this today because they want to see where it can lead to. tomorrow i don't love you that much ,that is when they find out that you are not what they want. some men just cannot get use to the one female thing. and some men are just afraid of commitment. you are not missing anything. they are missing something.
2006-12-29 03:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is how men are they have materailistic wants too now he got you so he is not really worried form men forever means some thing that is why he did not say it but any ways there is no such thing as forever any way so do not worry so much this is the psychology of men
2006-12-29 03:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by khanaliimran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This phenomenon, known as "indecision" plagues both men and women. Give him space and time. Don't be pushy about a commitment. Things will work out for the best.
2006-12-29 03:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he never did love u the way you thought, he just wanted something off u, and once he got it, he did not want to commit to u. u did nothing but put your trust in someone u shouldn't have. he got what he wanted from u, and now wants to go on to the next conquest, without any regard to u.
2006-12-29 04:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋