I have a friend that is in desperate need of some help. He started out with a promising future, good job, marriage, purchased a home. He hooked up with the wrong people, got hooked on crack, then lost his job, his wife and his home. He’s been to rehab, no help, because he went in for the crack addiction but did not mention to them that he was an alcoholic and a compulsive gambler. He has had his driver’s license suspended, ( he was a truck driver),due to DUI , DWI’s and did not pay his fines and has done time for drug possession and have not held a steady job in years. If it wasn’t for family and friends he would not have a place to live or clothes on his body. He is a middle aged guy and although there are support groups out there for younger people, you just cannot find groups that can help a person of his age with what he is experiencing. It seems that he has just given up on life. Is there any help or hope for this person?
2006-12-29 03:08:47 · 8 answers · asked by Whatever 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is always hope.
I don't know your friend, so I can't give medical/psychological advise specifically to him, but in general I would advise someone in his situation to seek professional help. Is he working with a therapist or counselor? There are many places one can go to receive help for little money. If he is still abusing, it may be helpful for him to consider another inpatient treatment program to help him stop. It is so important that he's absolutely honest with any treatment provider that he works with - without honesty, the process really won't work. If he's close to his family and friends, I would recommend a treatment program close by so that he can continue to receive their moral support.
Good luck, and don't give up hope!
2006-12-29 03:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by jdphd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok i am a heroin addict with the same story and this is the truth! There are plenty of groups and support things out there for everybody. He really needs to wanna get clean for any of it too work. Na and AA help alot of people but he will say he does not like them. They do suck but help some people. He needs a 30 day rehab. Then a halfway house then he can get on with life. Remember he might not be reachable there are people like this and i was one of them for a long time so if he is not ready don't bother. Just if you can get him into a 30 day atleast inpatient rehab right away. Non-negotiable he has to go. Then he and you shall see that there are millions of addicts out there that are of his age. They are everywhere i really don't know what your talking about. AA has more "oldtimers" or middle aged they are out there. Then the rehab will set him up with a long term plan thats what they do and if he wants it it will work. It may take a few trys if he needs too go 20 times back too rehab help him. good luck.
2006-12-29 04:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by Green Meds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholics Anonymous, and Narcotics Anonymous are both good support groups for all ages. The only problem is that your friend has to want this for himself. No amount of support or encouragement that you, or the people around him give, will make him straighten up his life. He has to come to the point of wanting to change his life for the better.
As long as his family and friends keep enabling him, by making sure he has a place to live and food, and providing all the essentials for him, he has no reason to change his life. It is called TOUGH LOVE, and it may hurt your feelings watching him go through the changes, but you have to realize what is best for him.
2006-12-29 03:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by jerrycarr99029 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope so. Only the ones who WANT recovery can get it. It's not for peole who NEED it it's for peole that WANT it. I'm sorry for your friend. It is a vicious disease. Some don't make it out alive. Your friend must be completely honest if he wants to make a beginning. It says "Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and woman who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves."
Ask him if he wants to go to some 12 step meetings. You can go with him if they are open meetings. The only way that I know of to stay sober is to work a 12 step program, get a sponser and work the steps. I'll say some prayers for you and him.
2006-12-29 03:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Beautib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your area for hostels that are drug and alcohol free. They should offer support around addictions, and have a resettlment team that help move on to independent living. The "dry" environment can be a good boundary and the support will focus him on his goals.
try googling your town followed by homeless or supported housing.
2006-12-29 03:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by banjo booee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-31 03:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask the Salvation Army for referrals in your community. They keep a current list to assist people of all ages and addictions.
You are a good soul for trying to give him a hand up out of this mess!
2006-12-29 03:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there an alano club in your area or a place to go for a.a. meetings or n.a.? They accept people of all ages and from what
I have seen most of the people in those meetings are middle aged. I worked at one of these places for several years and watched lives being turned completley around.
2006-12-29 03:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋