how to spice up our sex life?

Question

well me and my husband have a great sex life and im looking for some tips how i can change things a little to spice it up a little any tips on what to do and any sexy out fits or some lingire that i could find any sites where i could take a look at some stuff too like out fits or toys or anything..we have a good life but we dont use any toys or anything its just sex...i want some ideas somet new we can do to make it exciting and more pleasureable for both of us and may be make things more fun...and somet different...if anyone has any new positions or some advice plz go ahead...feel free to write what you like but somet usefull...thanks...im looking for ladies advice more...some guys give stupid advice and are rude many times...so if guys want to join in then plzz answer properly...

Answer 1

Frederick's of Hollywood is a great place. What does your husband get into, though? Nurses? Maid? If you can find that out, you can then go to Frederick's and buy that type of outfit.

Have fun! Great question

Answer 2

Hi Sarah Green, If your relationship is in a rut then the last thing, in all honesty, the two of you want to have is a threesome. From personal experience having a threesome is nothing like television or porno movies. Having a threesomes involves the managing the interaction of feelings against the need to preserve the relationship. This means at a time when you are vulnerable, like a rut where you feel the need to spice things up, a threesome may play on those vulnerabilities. The risk, playing on your vulnerabilities, can come in different forms. One possibility may be the person that you select may be aware, from the way the two of you interact, that there are some relationship issues. A good threesome candidate would say 'no' due it because of the issues and not wanting to be pulled into it. Whereas someone who is a bit less scrupulous may see it as a prime opportunity where they can exploit the situation so that they can get as much sex as possible. Another way could be the person you select is not compatible. Compatible in a threesome sense means someone that you can remain emotionally detached from but still enjoy the sex. Under this type of scenario you may choose someone who may develop feelings. With that said the above discusses theoretical possibilities of what could happen in a threesome situation when a couple wants to spice up their relationship. However when I read your question my concern about risks is increased due to the fact your question reads as though neither your husband or you have any idea what you are doing. Probably your last choice to ask is a neighbor, friend, coworker, or escort / prostitute due to the risks involved. Therefore my advice to you is do some reading on the subject. There are some good books from Amazon that you can buy. Also there are some good sites on the web that has information. Many of the sites are free, many have forums where you can ask others questions and some have articles written by various people. Three sites I would recommend would be swing lifestyle, swingers board, and literotica's - how to section. For me, I believe if a relationship is stagnate a threesome will not fix. In order to fix I believe the two of you need to find a way to reconnect first and then consider if having a threesome is the right choice for you. Once you have done some research on the topic I would then recommend discussing the subject again in light of what you have discovered, then from there decide. If you done your research, have talked about it, and still want to have a threesome then I would be happy to talk about how to approach someone. However I do not believe you are not at that point, yet. Remember once you have a threesome, you cannot undo that decision and it is better to enter having it with an understanding of what to expect than with unrealistic expectations. Finally from my experience it is better to take your time to talk through the idea then to rush into it believing that having a threesome is a panacea for a relationship that is lack some spice.

Answer 3

Have you ever been invited to a toy party?

They are alot of fun and you get to see some of the products there from creams, powders, lingerie and toys. The woman who is selling them at the party describes how to use them etc.

When it's time to buy, you go to another room in the host's house and purchase what you want and the purchase is put in a little brown bag and no one has to know. I recommend the silver bullet and the rabbit w/ears that you can put on the silver bullet. It gets you to orgasm quick and you can use with or without your partner present. I have used mine when my spouse wasn't there and then I told him about and that really turns him on.

Also, try telling each other fantasies you've had; anything erotic that turned you on. Have an opend mind about it; you never know what turns him on make get you hot as well.

Answer 4

OK, go to your local porn adult store with toys and things buy a few and try them out. Go to Frederick's or Victoria's Secret and get something skimpy. I don't know what you are looking for here there are plenty of things for stimulation. Are you game for an artificial Penis (don't forget the KY Jelly)? Oral sex is fun and stimulating to both, try not to get to kinky or you may find displeasure with the whole thing. Start off easy and then go as far as you want (remember the comfort zone so it doesn't get crazy), Good Luck!

Answer 5

the best game my girlfriend plays with me is called the "mirror game" It always gets me really crazy. First off I am kept in 24/7 chastity by her but I don't think you have to go that far. Keep your husband from having an orgasm for at least several days to a week. The game is this my girlfriend ties me up kneeling on the floor and attaches a chain to a ceiling hook. She then takes a small mirror and puts in on the floor in front of me. She takes her lipstick and draws a circle on the mirror about the size of an apple. She gives me these instuctions "I am going out while I am gone you are to fill that circle with your pre *** but you are not allowed to ***" This leaves me in a wonderfully terrible dilema in order to produce enough pre ejaculate to fill the circle I have to get myself really really hard almost to the point of orgasm but stop before I orgasm. I have to constantly bring myself to that state and stop again and again. If I screw up and orgasm I can't clean it up because I am chained. I also don't know how long she will be gone so I have to worry about that. When she returns if I have failed by either not filling the circle with pre *** or by cumming I receive a severe beating and my chastity continues if I suceed I am allowed to worship her orally and then masturbate once she is satisfied. You do not have to do the beating part or punishment part if thats not your thing but your husband will definitly be really hot for you when you get back. I am like crazy person after this game

Answer 6

go to the book store they have some great books on the subject. Also Spencer's is a fun store for some fun sexy stuff. I gave my sweetie a sex coupon book...its cute and he has used it a few times...it works too.
bubble baths, no panties at dinner but you gotta let him now in a sexy way...while out .
have fun!

Answer 7

check out victorias secrets, i don't know if they have a web site or not but they have alot of nice stuff. once obtained do a seductive strip tease dance for your husband taking off all items real slow

Answer 8

public places...
in nature.....
invite a friend....
masturbation races are fun....
roleplaying....
act out fantasies.....
Open mindedness and communication are the best ways to spice up a sex life.

Answer 9

some sexy outfit, will turn me on!! from a mans point of view though.

Answer 10

3 way (if you're that open)
toys (why not ?)
karmasutra.com
tantricsex.com