Should I give him another chance?

Question

I have been seperated from My daughters father for about 2 and half years now...We were together for 4 years before that. When I left he said that he wanted to work on things, I told him I needed time to find myself. I moved my daughter and I to Arizona (he lives in California) the time has come for me to move back to California, and now He wants to get back together. He just got out a relationship with another girl who he had another kid with. Things were really bad when I left, and stayed that way after I left. Him and I constantly Fought. I have a feeling that he might only want to come back so he doesn't have to pay child support. He had not paid Child Support in over a year. and He knows that when I get back to California that I plan fight for it on a regular bases...but then he does things...He calls, at like 12 midnight knowning I am alone and need someone to talk to. So Should I give things another chance with him?

Answer 1

you have to ask yourself, what has changed since you broke up the last time? do you still see yourself having the same problems that you had before? from the way you describe him, it seems that he has a problem with being alone, and that's never a good reason to start a relationship, new or old. you're probably right about that child support issue, if he hasn't been paying for that long, than obviously he's not concerned with you and your daughter's best interest. he's wanting you back for all of the wrong reasons, and he knows how to push all of your buttons to talk you into giving him whatever he wants. he's being selfish and he doesn't deserve it, don't give it to him. both you and your daughter deserve to be surrounded by people who love you and have your best interests at heart. don't put your daughter in the middle of another bad relationship.

Answer 2

Let me get this straight, after 6 1/2 years of constant drama, you wonder if you should give him another chance? I'm wondering why you gave him the 1st one. You believe he only wants you back to avoid Child Support - does this mean that if you get back together, he doesn't contribute to the household? Why is he calling you at 12:00 midnight? Why does he know your phone number? Why do you need someone to talk to? Don't you know anyone else? You need to get some counseling and quick, because not only does he appear to be (at least emotionally) abusive, you appear to enable him to do so. If you take him back, trust me, you will be sorry. Even more important, your daughter is learning that this is acceptable behavior in a relationship, and will come to expect no more for herself. As a parent, you should always want your children to have better than you had, which means teaching them better. And if you take that back, you're teaching her the wrong lesson.

Answer 3

No I have been there before and it is not going to work the second time if it didn't the first time. Trust me! Plus he has another baby mama and that is just going to be stressful on the relationship because you will always be wondering if he is with her and it's not worth it. Move on without him. Yes keep him in your daughter's life but other wise no.

Answer 4

You left the house cause it was burning, it burned the whole time you were gone and when you got back it still is burning. Why go back in? Makes no sense. Unless you like being burned.

Answer 5

No way girl! This guy sounds like nothing but trouble...ask yourself this - is he someone you would want your daughter with? If not, then you shouldn't be with him either!

Answer 6

why would you even consider being with him? do you have NO self respect? If you are this much a loser that you want him in your life, then you better give that poor baby up for adoption where she will at least have a chance at a life.

Answer 7

You have to go with whats in your hart... if it was me, NO I wouldn't let him back in, you have started a new life..... enjoy it.. Best of luck