Do you think i did the right thing?

Question

My ex best friend used to like my boyfriend and used to try and flirt with him all the time, she put me through hell for months actually before i finally kicked her to the curb. I mean the stuff she did was unbelievable. One time she asked my boyfriend to come out of town with just her and her family to watch a football match without me even knowing!! Thats just one of the many things she did. I must admit karma did come back to haunt her- she was losing her friends, started to get called names because she had a boyfriend that she cheated on at a party in front of him and everyone etc. Anyway i started feelin sorry for her and i thought it would be a good thing for us to mend our friendship. Hmm do u think im forgiving or just plain stupid? Im beginning to think that it was a bad idea as i do tend to think about the past and how much she hurt me which makes me say to myself 'What the f#%@ was i thinking letting her back into my life?!'

Answer 1

baby girl, you're just too kind. what if it happens again; i'm almost 100% sure that it would. these type of people can't change their spots. you can offer a friendship, but keep her @ distance. please have your guard up around her.

Answer 2

You said your "ex best friend." If she is truly your best friend and I mean in the deepest sense as friends can be, then you need to forgive her and give her a chance for redemption. We don't get many true friends in life and as you get older, you will understand that. However, we cannot just keep people in our lives that constantly disrupt and threaten to ruin our relationships and other things we do. Some people just cannot help themselves and find they want everything that others have. If this problem persists, then you must say adios. At least you can say you took the high road and made the effort. If she understands your good intentions and straightens up, then you will both flourish and share your life's experiences as you grow older and get married, have children etc.That is what true friendship is all about. Good luck!

Answer 3

first off if you have a friend and they want your boyfriend ,you should let them go. as you said kick her to the curb. i hate to be the one to judge but she sounds like a real bit*h believe me she does. and all thought she did so many things you still found it in your heart to forgive her and take her back as a friend. i know it will be hard for you to trust her. be her friend but tell her nothing at all about your personal life. she will ruin it. i think you are an extraordinary person. quite frankly if i were in your position i would have never taken her back. but being the good person that you are you gave her a second chance. i think that was the right thing to do. you are not stupid. you did the right thing. she was your friend before you bf came along. you did the right thing. just always be on your guard. don't tell her anything about your personal life.

Answer 4

You did a good thing by letting her back into your life...But it probably wasn't the right thing for YOU. Forgiveness is good, but in cases such as these, I say leave her at the curb. It's where she belongs. Treating you this way is probably second nature to her, a habit. What if she tried it again? You'll kick yourself in the azz wont you?

Answer 5

you need shooting for being so nice! so you are a forgiving person who wants to see the best in people,whats wrong in that,,if they throw it back in your face that speaks volumes about them and their character not yours,,do let her know what ticked you off last time and that you are sure she will be more sensitive in future,,(with a smile of course).YOU spend time with her as a friend before you go back to rolling out the red carpet towards your family,,if she wants and values your friendship she will get the message and if not,,you have lost nothing,,stay as you are,,there are enough bitter people out there without you losing faith,,smile at one stranger and they may smile at another and so on,,,,,,not all are complete idiots.

Answer 6

We are only human, I have to say... I am allot like you, very forgiving. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. I don't see anything wrong with giving her another chance. Of course if she continues to repeat the same mistakes and adds new one to the list then you are better off without friends like that. Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 7

Obviously your a bigger person than her, It's fine that you let her back into your life but stay guarded. watch out for yourself over everyone and if she even shows any signs of screwing you over again then tell her that she's lost your friendship for good this time and will never have any friends if she doesn't change her ways.

Answer 8

You did the right thing.
Keep people around you that help build you up and make you a better person and those who don't get them out. You can't fix her or help her until she wants to be better tell than leave alone and get another friend.

Answer 9

I think it's okay to forgive her but do you really want someone like that in your inner circle. What will you do when your next boyfriend comes along. You forgave her, you don't hate her, but that doesn't mean you have to be her best buddy again.

Answer 10

oh so u like boys naturaly all like boys but dont be so stupid fo boys beacuse hey will take u no where in the world if the start flurting they go on see u liked your X-boyfrnd but now do u even miss him no beacuse it wasnot frm heart it was just showoffffffffff . Even i m a boy but i know what do other boys do i dont get involved in this matters if u wanna talk sent a message to [e-mail]

Answer 11

Forgive and Forget

You should also ask for forgiveness and give forgiveness.. but to truley mean it you must forget about the situation and start new.... with or with out her.