My Husband and i have been married for 5 months, and I think he is cheating on me . Hes just diffrent towards me. I know about the newly wed thing but its like it bothers him to be around me.
2006-12-29 02:35:34 · 12 answers · asked by Mrs.Beckford 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sadly the only way to tell for sure if he is lieing or cheating is to ask him straight out if he is......but if you already think he is cheating and/or lieing to you, you have another problem of trust....I dont think cheating should be the first assumption, there could be a lot of things going on to make him act that way. But talking is ultimately the only way to find out for sure....
The problem with doing what phnxxx suggests is that if you go looking for something you are going to find it...good or bad you will find what you want to find....if you sneak and check phone records, emails and text messages without him knowing you can make any of it fit your assumption that he is lieing to you....and if he isnt and you have gone behind his back to do all this (he will find out that you did believe me he will) he will lose all trust in you, and that in itself could end your marriage...
2006-12-29 02:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They say there are certain signs to look for:
1) Restlessness around the house. Always making excuses to go out.
2) Hang ups when you answer the phone
3) Unknown numbers on the cell
4) Locked passwords on email or internet accounts so you can't see his stuff.
5) Coming home late saying he is "working' and then jumping into the shower.
6) Smelling perfume on clothing, or finding a different looking hair on clothing.
7) Loss or greater interest in sex(not the norm).
Good luck. I hope for your sake he's not cheating , but if he is be ready for him.
2006-12-29 02:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are doubting him , you can be causing some of the issues, but then again they say a woman can feel it when it isn't right. The best approach to this in my eyes is to talk to him, ask him if anything in your relationship has changed and if he still feels the same about you as the day he married you. What makes you think he is cheating on you, have you found numbers or lipstick on his collar, is there hair on his shirt that is not yours, or is it just the way you are feeling?
2006-12-29 02:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by mdsmith9372 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say 5months of marriage? That is terrible.Only that it is not easy to mail you like I could have ask you certain questions. You know some people who never move in company with others whey they marry they will only learn to be at home. When I got married I was never at home but it was not that I was cheating my wife. But she had to open my mind on the fact that she was not satisfied on my abandoning her. I understood and things changed. So please tell your dear husband what you think he is doing wrong. If there is real love, he will understand and all will be ok.
Accept my love.
2006-12-29 02:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by patrick w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u have that six sense swarming in ur doubtful mind, that maby there is a possiblity of an affair. Ask urself, Did he ever cheat or had the tendency to cheat when u dated him in the past. Acknowledge, and gather information about him. Keep ur eyes peeled open. And alwayz expect the unexpected;
2006-12-29 02:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he still has a pulse. Apparently you married prematurely. Next time, (assuming that you're crazy enough to marry again), do some research and self-searching before you sign on the dotted line. Not every guy wants to be married. To you it's about the big white dress and the fairytale party. To him, it's about the open bar and free nookie for a while...as you now know.
2006-12-29 02:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
look for small changes in behavior , using different terminolgy and patterns of always having somewhere to go. How do they act when they come home . Lack of sex , do they talk on the phone in front of you . Do they want to conversate with when they return home. Seek and Ye Shall find, I know cuz it happened to me .
2006-12-29 02:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by gipdeezal32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you wont, except if you spy on him. Me and my ex wife had a long relation ship, our children are now over 2o, and I had no reason to suspect her, until all of a sudden she asked for divorce. She was such an actress, and could hide it all from me, while actually she was on it.
2006-12-29 02:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Philip76LostLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if possible, check his phone records text messages and or emails he has received without him knowing. just watch his behavior and see what he does. if you find anything strange from his phone, email comfrunt him in a nice way about it, if not just communicate to him that you are worried about him and maybe he will just tell you.
2006-12-29 02:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should ask him. whether or not he's honest with you you'll be able to tell if he is cheating. his body lang. cant lie. or hire you a pi and an atty
2006-12-29 02:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋