How come after people post a question here about an unplanned pregnancy...?

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....that so many others feel that they must tell them to be "protected." Babies are a natural outcome of sex---with or without contraception. No form of contraception is 100% effective...heck, only a few forms of them are even contra-ceptive (prevent conception)!!!! Nobody did anything "wrong." Why do we see this "blame game" time and time again? Have we forgotten that sex is necessary to conceive babies and that babies are a "natural byproduct" of sex?

1. Shouldn't people be able to control themselves from having sex in the first place? Won't the lure of using a "contraceptive" discourage that kind of control?
2. My husband and I use NFP. The cervical mucus method is 97% effective by itself, the temperature charting method is 98% effective by itself according to PLANNED PARENTHOOD (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/birth-control/fertility-awareness-based-methods.htm). Together, they are more than 99% effective. While it's true it requires times of abstinence (about 9-10 days per cycle during the fertile periods), this teaches couples to value their intimacy during sex more and it teaches men to respect their wives' bodies. Plus, it introduces no foreign chemicals to anyone's body. So, there are definately alternatives!

Using NFP, you can still have sex for pleasure without trying to conceive a baby! No problem!
Herpes and other STDs are risks for those who are not monogamous relationships. You decide whether or not to put yourself at risk for these diseases. Nobody forces this upon you. (And, obviously, in the case where someone WOULD force this upon you--namely, rape--you are absolutely justified in using condoms or other barrier methods. And, of course, rape is not about mutual sexual pleasure or intimacy!)

The world is overpopulated? Actually, governments are facing UNDERpopulation problems:
http://www.opinionjournal.com/extra/?id=110008892
AND
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/11/19/AR2006111900682.html

Angie: I agree with you! These people need advice, not judgment!

4 Little Arrows: That's awesome! Thanks for sharing your story. I LOVE your name!
"Children too are a gift from the LORD, the fruit of the womb, a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children born in one's youth. Blessed are they whose quivers are full."
Psalms 127:3-5 Beautiful:)

Answer 1

i don't think it's wise or good to get pregnant outside of marriage, or to have sex outside of marriage for that matter. But unplanned pregnancies aren't a bad thing inside of marriage, IMO. It just means that God had other plans! Husband and I use NFP exclusively for our family planning and have never had an unplanned pregnancy...we also have four beautiful sons.

Answer 2

Because unforunatley, many people have also forgotten that sex should be the "natural byproduct" of two mature and loving adults. We don't blame everyone on here...just the ones who say things like..."I am 17 and pregnant and I have already had two abortions!" or the ones who post questions in the relationship section like..."should I stay with him even if I think he is cheating?" and then post questions in the pregnancy section like..."I am pregnant and don't know how I let this happen!"
Yes...sex is necessary to concieve babies....but to take care of those babies requires parents, emotional and financial stability. an education, and for some of these yahoos...a brain.
The sad truth is....the world is already overpopulated with far too many idiots and if those idiots continue to reproduce....then our great great great grandchildren will be far out numbered in a world full of idiots! Not to mention that those idiots will continue to destroy our earth and our ability to strive.
IF YOU DON"T WANT TO GET PREGNANT, YOU ARE NOT READY FOR A CHILD, AND YOU CANNOT SUPPORT YOURSELF....DO NOT HAVE SEX! IT IS THAT SIMPLE. WHY CAN'T PEOPLE GET IT THROUGH THEIR HEADS?

Answer 3

Whether it be an unplanned pregnancy or herpes, you need to be protected. Period. I think most everyone understands nothing is 100% effective, but it is better than nothing.

Not only that there are a TON of teens on here posting about unplanned pregnancies. In my opinion there IS INDEED something wrong with that. Education about protection is necessary.

Answer 4

Some people just need help, some need guidance and need to talk to people in the same situation or a situation that may be similar. They may also want to get advice from more experienced women. You dont need to dog them out. They need help, just let them be and if you are a kind person you should help them. Talk to them be nice. Good luck with yourself.

Answer 5

But sex is also for pleasure and we will have sex more often for pleasure than to have a child...without contraceptives how many more unplanned pregnancies could the world handle with the already growing population?

Answer 6

People say be protected for those people who don't want to/aren't prepared to be pregnant because they don't want say that they ought to keep their pants on. Abstinence is taboo but it really is the only way to be sure you aren't pregnant. There are also std's you can get from having unprotected sex.

Answer 7

NOT EVERYTHING GOES RIGHT WHEN THEY ARE PLANNED. THE BEST THINGS ARE UNPLANNED.!!!!

Also people wait for the right time to have a baby and then they dont get pregnant.

Answer 8

because many people aren't fit to be parents and now because they couldn't control themselves a child is going to suffer.