On Christmas Eve, at 2:30 in the morning, my BF started a huge fight because my printer was plugged into the wall...
He has a chameleon and keeps the cage over by my computer/printer/etc, and there's only one electrical outlet over there. He has 2 heat lights on the chameleon cage, but only uses one at a time. In order for me to use my printer, I have to unplug the un-used light and plug in my printer. I had been using my printer, and went to bed without unplugging it.
At 2:30AM he woke up yelling and calling me names and saying I'm stupid and lazy for not unplugging my printer before I went to bed. I woke up because I heard him yelling, so I came downstairs and asked what the heck was going on...and we got into a huge fight because I said I didn't see the reason for making such a big deal over the plug!!
On Christmas Day, he didn't go with me to the family's house...he stayed home to sulk. I went alone, and when I came back, he acted like nothing ever happened. What now???
2006-12-29 02:28:05 · 9 answers · asked by Heather C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After I came back from Christmas with the family, he's been acting all nice and sweet. I've tried to talk to him to find out why he was acting so crazy, but he doesn't want to talk about it. But I want to know why!! There was no reason for him to get so bent out of shape over something so insignificant!!! He wants me to leave it alone and "get along"...but I don't know that I SHOULD leave it alone. This is ridiculous.
2006-12-29 02:29:57 · update #1
I vote for the power strip to let everyone plug in.
Now... what to do about the bf?
First ask yourself, "why would I let someone talk to me like that? And why would I let someone make me feel confused about bad behavior?"
Bad behavior is bad behavior.
My aunt once told us:
"Don't treat me like family. Treat me like a stranger. Everyone will use better manners."
2006-12-29 02:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Stargatebabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what is he doing up at 2:30 in the morning looking at his chameleon? Did the lizard die because of the lack of light? Probably not. I think that usually when someone has a reaction such as this to a situation that does not call for such seriousness, something else is going on. The rest of this answer is in assumption that you apologized to him for forgeting to unplug the printer. That's pretty important, acknowledging that you did something wrong.
There must be other things bothering him, that he is not ready to discus with you yet, which tells me that you shouldn't even be living together. It's one thing for him not to want to discuss it, but to not apoilogize for his irrational behavior is very juvenille. And not even the yelling: everyone gets upset at times and blows things out of proportion, saying things they shouldn't. But to pout and leave you hanging for the holiday is something a small child would do, not a grown man. And to act like it never happened? Grow up. I would rethink the relationship and decide if you can tolerate his lack of communication skills, and more importantly his inability to apologize to you. that's sometimes the hardest part in a relationship, is saying you are sorry. If he can't even do that, he's not worth it.
2006-12-29 10:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get one of those adaptors that turns a standard plug into 6 outlets; or maybe an extension cord.....
Or maybe get a man that cares more about you than some $10 friggin lizard. I love reptiles, had many as pets, but that is a bit exxxxtreme. Funny though how you got home and he acted like nothing happened; almost like a chameleon blending into it's surroundings to hide from a predator.........................
2006-12-29 10:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty lame reason to fight about. I can't imagine what a legitimate argument leads to with you both. Start asking yourself now if thats the kind of person you want to invest a future with. If he can't be humble enough to admit he went overboard about something trivial, especially since all you did was simply forget to plug in his lamp. People have a tendency to only get worse, and what a way to ruin Xmas. ALL couples fight at one time or another. Your scenerio makes him sound like a spoiled brat. I would bring it up and say that he owes you an apology. If he declines, then like I said, you better think twice...Good luck to you both.
2006-12-29 11:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by deceit29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A fight about a reptile? WOW!! Have you two thought of getting a power strip for that plug? You could leave your printer plugged in, and his heat lamps, and anything else you needed to. Your boyfriend needs to grow up and adjust his attitude.
2006-12-29 10:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by pryncessleah23 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should discuss the issue with him. Try to understand why he got so upset over a little thing. If this is a pattern and happens again, you may need to think about moving on. Its not right for a guy to call a girl names in a relationship. If it happens too many times, you may start to believe it which is not healthy for you.
2006-12-29 10:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is a very bad sign, not a good one, that is a sign of verbal abuse or possibly physical abuse someday, watch out girl this is a red light, a warning sign. think 1,000 times before you say i do to this guy.
2006-12-29 11:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez... the poor printer... plugged in the whole nite and nobody cares.
2007-01-02 00:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose him, you can do better then someone who verbally abuses you.
2006-12-29 10:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by ladykay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋