how much is too much (friendship and privacy)?

Answer 1

I was thinking about this the other night.

Relationships are based on love, trust, and honesty.

That is all relationships.

But as you point out, people try and protect their privacy.

I think it is because the simplest relationship is the one you have with yourself, your identity. You have to love yourself, to trust in yourself, to be honest to yourself or people will see you as false.

Inviting others into that relationship is not good. It can turn you into someone you don't love, can't trust, and hardly recognize. And, if you can't recognize yourself , who can?

Too much friendship is when you stop being who you are and start being who your friend(s) want you to be. Too much privacy is when you trust noone but yourself and nobody know who you are except yourself. Sadly, that is true for most people but just not to the point of isolation.

Know this, there are two yous. There is the you that you know to be you and there is the you everyone will say was you whenever you leave the room. They are not the same thing. they are not even close for most people.

I like my privacy. I like my friends too. I just know that they cannot exist at the same time, especially if the relationship turns into a courtship and the person you want to be intimate with feels that there should be no secrets between you. That is a sure way to wear out a relationship. In that situation you have to love the person's faults as much as the person's virtues. It is tough to do that and so honesty becomes a problem and the tust you have in yourself begins to come into question.

Big answer for a big question, but like I wrote; I had been thinking about this the other night.

BTW, always be yourself. People only get a fraction of who you are from what you do or say, so if you wanted be recognized, you have to risk being known. You can always pull back if it gets too intimate.

I hope this helps with whoever you are trying to dialogue at this moment. It is amazing what you can learn in one dialogue if you pay attention.

Answer 2

Too much friendship is when the friend becomes obsessive about you and must see you all the time; always calling, emailing, and just won't give you any space.

There is never a thing as too much privacy.

Answer 3

To much friendship can be defined as inconveniences that you start calling "to much" same goes for privacy.

Answer 4

Too much friendship comes when being friends becomes a job.I don't need nor want to see friends every day.I can go weeks without seeing my friends and when we meet again its like we are always together.I don't want anyone up in my face 24/7/365
I love my husband but I also need my time and my privacy.I enjoy spending time alone ,it gives me time to appreciate all the good in my life.

Answer 5

too much friendship is a lifetime companionship
too much privacy is a life's secret

Answer 6

Friendship: when a friend starts to become jealous of you hanging out with other people and wants you all to him or herself.

Privacy: when nobody gets to know who you truly are.

Answer 7

Too much is freedom to walk in and out of your room when they feel like it. That is my privacy.

Answer 8

never to many friends
but privacy is a whole other story,
do not show up right after I get home from work unless I knew you were coming..I do not like to be smothered..

smile
good luck

Answer 9

too much privacy is selfishness...
every relationship, that includes friendship, must have limitations... everything that is much too much is not good ;-)

Answer 10

When there is nothing new that you want your friends to know, when there is nothing to that you can talk with your friend to ask for an opinion. When the two od you spend so much time together that there is nothing left of you that your friend doesn't know.