My wife is always on the phone or chatting with old guy friends and other men that she begs for permission to have sex with, just this morning she set her clock to wake her up hours before me to chat with another man. She is always lieing and hiding things from me. I have tried everything i know to try and nothing works, she always seems to convince me she'll do better but she never does and it's getting to a point i can't believe a word she says. How do i convince her to stop hurting me?
2006-12-29 02:17:57 · 14 answers · asked by Eddie N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uh dude, begs for your permission to have sex with other guys?
That my friend is what we call a "wake up call."
She needs counseling if she can't help herself. You can work with her if she truly wants to be helped. Otherwise you're in for some heartache.
If you go to church speak with your pastor. If you don't then speak with a licensed psychologist. She could have a real problem.
She is your wife and you must do all you can to save your marriage. You have to help her the best you can. If she crosses the line it is up to you what you want to do. If you love her then work with her.
Love is work, it's not a feeling. Feelings come from love but are not love in of itself. And my friend, you have your work cut out for you.
2006-12-29 02:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by Emperor Insania Says Bye! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem sweet, but maybe you are a bit on the way too nice side. She does not care about your feelings, so there is no way to convince her to stop hurting you. She doesn't love you enough, or frankly at all, because when a woman really loves a man, he is her only focus. You are definately very blurred. Don't want to be so harsh, but I hope you can open your eyes and see that she really doesn't deserve such a caring person, and there is definately a nice woman out there that does. Make another path for yourself and leave her. That's basically what she is asking you to do, when she asks to have sex with other men.
2006-12-29 02:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple, you can't make anyone do something they are not willing to do on their own. She's probably been doing this for a long time. And with any person that continues to sin for a long time, it becomes second nature to them, thus it becomes part of their natural everyday life like they've been doing this since they could breath.
It's obvious that you love your wife or else you wouldn't be trying to work this out. BUT, in order to see where her heart REALLY is, I advise divorcing her, also. If that's not a viable option for you, then move out the house and separate. If she doesn't notice that you're gone, then you were never really there in her life to begin with. If she does, put down some harsh stipulations you coming back, but don't move back in prematurely. Sit it out for a month or so and watch her. If she's really wanting to make a change, it should be apparent to you in her demeanor.
2006-12-29 05:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being used. She's walking all over you like a door mat. Get a spine.
Tell her if she wants sex with other men - fine - but not to come back here.
You have excellent grounds for divorce - why waste you life with someone who obviously doesn't care about you?
2006-12-29 02:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain how you feel you her and that this attitude needs to stop. If this doesn't stop, you two will need to separate. There is no reason that a married woman would still be talk to other men asking for sex and hiding it from her husband.
2006-12-29 02:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek professional help for her. how can let that happened? u r the man of the man of the house things like that are not supposed to happen under ur eyes like that. talk to her tell her if she don't stop u will divorce her and if there is kids involved that u will take custody of them. she will freak out and probably she might stop. try it u never know what might happen.
2006-12-29 02:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eddie you need to move on from this woman. She obviously has different values than you and this will never work in your favour. You need to find a woman who wants a monogamous relationship and there are many who do. Good luck, I know how difficult this must be and how hurt you must feel.
2006-12-29 02:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time, just divorce her, why do you want to live in such constant lying, deceit and mental torture. Show some respect for yourself, don't give her to opportunity to walk all over you.
2006-12-29 02:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her! Don 't put yourself through all that! If she wants to be with other men then she doesn't deserve to have you. You deserve someone better, someone who will love you the way you love them.
2006-12-29 02:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by LivingMyLife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to get her to stop. You need to get a divorce. Why would you enable her to that kind of behavior? Get a backbone, man. She is just not that into you!!!
2006-12-29 02:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by jenny in ohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋