they don mind gay guys but and lezbiens they are freaked out by should i tell them im bi? and if i should how?
2006-12-29 02:15:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
bi as in bisexual that means i like guys and girls i dont have a desiese ??im confused??
2006-12-29 02:26:20 · update #1
why would i pretend to be something everyone around me hates???
you people are weird...
2006-12-29 02:33:59 · update #2
I'm really surprised at some of the answers you've received. I don't understand people answering questions in this section if they are just going to hate. Anyways I say give your friend's some credit. You have already decided for them how they are going to react. I may say I dislike cheese cake and then you make one and OMG it tastes different then all the other's I've tasted. Bad analogy? Probably but you'd be surprised how people react when your honest with them. Something happens inside. If your friend's have trouble with it then it will be up to them to figure out why it is they are not accepting of Everything about you. It's not up to you to hide you are to protect them from what? Facing their views on differences that other people have. It's also wierd that they are accepting of Gay men and not lesbians. Be sure to tell them you do not have feeling's for them in "that way." Good luck. Honesty is always the best policy. Always.
2006-12-29 02:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Ignore some of these judgmental freaks. I've counted three worthless replies, not sure if I missed any. Not everyone recognizes bisexuals like us. My advice would be either keep it to yourself or find new friends. If you are all very close then you may want to do something like this.
Get the one that you trust the most and tell her that he/she is your most trusted friend and that you have something important to tell them. Then tell him/her, I'm just gonna assume it's a she from this point on because she is easier to type that he/she, that you are bi. Tell her it's not a choice and that just because you are attracted to girls doesn't mean that you lust after every girl you see, heterosexuals often live under the delusion that we are all out to get them, not all of them but it is common; makes them feel special. Ask her to keep this a secret and that you really need her friendship right now.
You can judge the others reactions by her's. After that tell her that you aren't changing and that while you value her friendship you are going to live your life, with or without her. Repeat this with the rest of your friends. If they will not accept you for your sexuality then you need some new friends.
2006-12-29 06:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Rageling 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
massageinfresno has hit it very well.
I think that if your friends are your real friends, they will accept you. If you share everything about yourself, it may be rocky for a time, especially with those who are "homophobic," but your friends, your true, real friends, will still be there.
And you will find other friends to replace the people who are no longer in your life.
Will all that hurt? Will it leave you sad? Yes. But life goes on, and you will eventually be glad to have people around you who accept you for you, and not for some "projection" of yourself that was not really you.
I do have a question: do you want to share with your friends because you are bi and you are tired of hearing their tirades? Or do you want them to know who you really are and maybe help them to change in some way?
If you sense that their homophobia is too strong, maybe you are just better of finding new friends who will accept you as you, and you let them know from the start??
I am not sure the "right" answer here, but with the good advice you are receiving, like from massageinfresno, you will make one that is best for you, I am sure.
Good luck
2006-12-29 03:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by SAMUEL ELI 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find friends that wont judge you. I am sure everyone knows I am bi and if they dont they are not shocked by it. If you think you have to sit them down and say you are bi you dont. And it depends on how comfortable you are about it also. If you are scared to be judged wait until you are more secure.
2006-12-29 02:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You aren't obligated to tell them anything, and if they are so freaked out by lesbians but are fine with gay guys I'd say, girlfriend, dump these people, they are hypocrites and far too juvenile to worthy of your time. If you are that afraid of telling them because you are concerned about their reaction then you don't need them in your life. It's a real big planet out there with some truly amazing people in it. My suggestion would to be put yourself out there, be honest, and explore. in the long run you'll be glad you did. I hope this helps.
2006-12-29 02:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
If they freak out, don’t tell them.
On the other hand: Are they really such good friends if you have to hide such a personal fact from them? Or are they just buddies?
And in that case I would risk losing them if they don’t accept you decision!
2006-12-29 02:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by saehli 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Wow you really shouldn't tell them at all.....especially since you fear they won't be ur friend anymore....
do you like one of them? is that why you feel the need to tell them?
2006-12-29 04:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they will judge you because of who you are, then are they really your friends?
Sounds simplistic, but that's really what it comes down to. Its YOUR life, YOUR decision, not theirs. If I were you, I'd seek better friends than that.
2006-12-29 03:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
just tell them, if they cant accept it then i guess they r not true friends
2006-12-29 03:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by me m 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell them, they aren't you're real friends if they don't except you.
2006-12-29 02:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋