I finally had enough last night and told my husband that if he didn't back off about my job I was going to see a lawyer.He laughed & told me if I left I would be dooming my self to a life as a spinster because men don't even consider women over 35 for relationships.He knows I hate to be alone & have a voracious appetite for sex so I am pretty sure he was just playing head games but now I have more doubts.I don't know if leaving is worth it if I am looking at being alone for the rest of my life.
So tell me guys, do men write women over 35 off as un-dateable?I am a 5'6" blond size 4 who is fit and fairly well built (35-26-32).I bike, run (6mi a day), & lift weights.I am fairly certain I am not ugly since I modeled professionally before we were married & have taken very good care of my appearance.Do men only look for younger women for relationships?Would my age (almost 40), a crazy job schedule & the fact that I have 2 wonderful teenage children make me undesireable to single men?
2006-12-29 02:09:58 · 23 answers · asked by ;-) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in response to m-t-nest: I am not forcing my will. Just trying to save my sanity. Please see my earlier question for further explaination. I am not a forceful person which is why this is so difficult for me.
2006-12-29 02:23:02 · update #1
Honestly...older women are sexier then younger women.
2006-12-29 02:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by hys7768 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might to some, but most men that would be in the age range you would be interested in will expect you to have a career to work around, as well as children. It sounds like you also have the physical attributes that would make finding a man a snap! The age isn't something that would get in your way either. The problem is that you seem to only want out of your marriage IF you can get someone else. This seems to tell me that you don't really want out, you are just frustrated at the moment. If you really wanted out bad enough that you should do it, you wouldn't care if you were single the rest of your life, you would just do it. It doesn't sound like your marriage is that bad. Every couple hits points where they wonder if they would be happier elsewhere. You also have to consider that you will most likely go through several jerks before you can find another man that you would be happy with. Do you really want to put yourself and your teenage kids through this?
Regardless of whether you could get a man or not, my advice would be to stick with what you have. Figure out how you can make compromises together to find middle ground you can both find happiness in. AND.....Don't threaten your husband with divorce......this will only make him think you are becoming unstable and irrational and it will be impossible for him to take you seriously.
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-29 02:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by PDH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that I do not and believe that a lot of men feel the same that you or anyother women would be un-dateable with your age and children. I do think it can be hard to find the right person though. I know from experience because I am 36 with 2 wonderful children living with me and it is hard to find the right woman(one that doesn't mind myself having children) I think men tend to accept women with kids than women accepting men with kids. Hang in there and don't worry about your life after you leave him, but if there is really a problem with your husband, then leave him now and don't look back.
2006-12-29 02:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by mfan93 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's not about your hot body and good looks. For dating, that's a dime a dozen. The reason it is so difficult to remarry or even get very serious is you are programmed and like itor not, you will be trying to force your will on some hapless bastard that just got out of this situation. You can make it but you have to be more open minded than you can handle. Even if you think you can, you can't.
2006-12-29 02:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I'm a 38 yr. old woman, married. And let me tell you I'm just about to leave my husband, and I have men crying to be with me, even though I have an 8 yr. old girl, and 4 yr. old boy, they don't even care, they just want to make me and my kids happy. I never thought that at this age, would be possible. But like you, I take good care of myself, and men like being with an intelligent older woman, with experience, some men don't want to be babysitting. So don't let him intimidate you, he's full of s!. You sound very desirable.
2006-12-29 04:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! When i person says that kind of hateful thing to you, they aren't considered a "man" anyway. If anything, its the other way around. Im a Male, and let me tell you, Woman may age just like the rest of society but it's all about how you feel about yourself. Sounds to me like he's very dominating or TRYS to be..
2006-12-29 02:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let you husband know that young men love older women. To prove this to yourself, just go out without him and see how many guys hit on you. With or without your wedding ring, 35 and up is still hot.
2006-12-29 03:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by harold 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A woman like yourself could have any man you wanted to all you have to do is put yourself out there to be available as for myself I love older women it does not bother me if they have children or not as long as you can make me laugh and we can have a good time together that's all that counts as for your husband he is a jerk and should apologize for hurting your feelings, my mother raised three children on her own without any help from my father and all of us do very well without him you sound like a very strong woman i wish you the best of luck
2006-12-29 02:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by james g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds like your husband is insecure and he's trying to scare you into staying with him. He's not stupid...he knows that you can find someone better than him, and he knows that you're a great catch who's got a lot to offer...so he's trying to shake you up and make you think it would be worse for you if you left him. When the truth is, you'd be better off.
2006-12-29 02:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by Heather C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm right there with you on age and from I read you sound very hot, I also have the same problem with women because , I'm a truck driver I'm never any where long enough , lonely and sex wish I new !!!!!!!!!
2006-12-29 04:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by hardroader67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a loser.....I have a brother 38 years old who lives in Minneapolis MN that can not find someone nice like you. if you live anywere close to that area, send me an email and I'll try to hook you up.....there are tons of men out there looking to meet someone nice....go you yahoo personals and type in your zip code and you will see what I mean........
2006-12-29 02:13:44 · answer #11 · answered by besthusbandever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋