Im 23 and I really want to keep the baby, my bf will think he is not ready (he is 29) for kids cause we are not married.How do i break the ice and let him know that if i am pregant i will keep the baby.????
I had 2 abortions in the past and i dont want to do it again.
Im 3 weeks late and the pregnancy test was neg. But im going to get a blood test next week.
2006-12-29 02:07:19 · 22 answers · asked by Oh Boy!! 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well...he knows that you guys have been having sex so if he has a brain in his head then he should know that there is always a chance for pregnancy. If he freaks...that is his problem.
By the way...if you have had two abortions already...why didn't you find a reliable method of birth control if you weren't ready. I am pro choice, but one abortion is excusable...after that, you should really figure out a way to prevent it from happening again. Abortion should not be used as a form of birth control.
Also, if you have already had two abortions...having a third may really increase your chances of developing complications later in life when you are ready to have children.
Think it throught and if you have the baby, I wish you lots of luck....if you find out that you are not pregnant, then the tqwo of you need to communicate and find a way to avoid this problem again. If he is not ready then you cannot force him.....but he too needs to take some responsibility in the birth control depertment.
2006-12-29 02:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't like your boyfriend! Really. In my opinion, just wait to see the result after the test! Abortion is not good for you health.2 time is much! Stop it. Don't ever do it again. After the test, tell him the truth that U pregnant and U want to keep the baby. If he don't agree, then he isn't a good father and I think U should forget him!
2006-12-29 02:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by √iç √µ® 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything until you get the results of the blood test.
If you're pregnant,you have to be direct and tell him exactly what
your position is. He may not want a baby now but he's 29,that's
old enough to take responsibility. Be prepared though,his reaction
may not be what you expect.
If he refuses to help listen to Amosunknown and take him to court
for child support.
2006-12-29 02:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by Alion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your new baby! I admire your strength and courage in having been through similair situations before, and seeking change!
I recommend going with your boyfriend to your local Pregnancy Resource Center (you can find it on www.pregnancycenters.org). These centers provide free pregnancy testing and counseling and sometimes medical appointments. As early as 6-8 weeks, parents can hear the new baby's heartbeat. They do not provide nor refer for abortions, but they do provide information about it. Let them know your history, and how you feel about the baby you have now. They will be supportive of you and help you talk about it with your boyfriend.
Also, you can show your boyfriend sites on Post Abortion Syndrome (like www.postabortion.org) with information about the effects of abortion on women. And let him know that statisitcally, about 90% of couples who choose abortion will break up. Real men don't ask their loved ones to go through this kind of thing, you know? Real men take responsibility. Your boyfriend WANTS to be a responsible man, sometimes it's just confusion about what a responsibile man does....our society paints abortion as "responsible" and paradoxically, "an easy way out." The truth is that it is neither. Abortion leaves a lasting effect on all parties involved.
I will definately keep you, your boyfriend and your baby in my prayers. May God shelter you all in His loving arms. God bless!
2006-12-29 02:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest. If you are pregnant you don't need to be stressing and worrying about what your bf may think. The first thing is to tell him your late and that you think you may be pregnant, go from there. Be prepared, it sounds like you already feel he won't be supportive. Tell a friend, family member or close work colleague. Don't feel like your on your own and don't be badgered into making a decision that you don't want to.
Good luck, fingers crossed xx
2006-12-29 02:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by SARAH S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't tell him you might be pregnant he will think that you are trying to trap him and your relationship will end. Find out for sure and then present him with the information. Sounds like your bf likes to play house but is not ready for a real commitment.
2006-12-29 02:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by chris a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't worry until you get a positive pregnancy test. Then just be honest and tell him why you are ready. If he doesn't stand by your side then he isn't ready to be a father or dad. You have to be unselfish to become a parent and that includes making sacrifices.
2006-12-29 02:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say.."Baby, I think I'm pregnant. Lets go get a test to find out."
"I do not want an abortion. I want to keep our child."
"Maybe it's time we discuss getting married."
it wnt be that hard!! good luck and congrats if u are pregnant!!
Oh, and if he decides to act stupid, then i agree with one of the previous answers to this question: Take his A/S/S To Court!
2006-12-29 02:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by mzsouthernprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through that with a previous girlfriend and the baby wasn't even mine (we had just hooked up). Firstly I would have that blood tested as you apparently don't like condoms. Second, you also don't like birth control and cannot hold that against the Guy unless you've told him about that.
2006-12-29 02:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by Hans 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say anything until you know for sure. No reason to cause stress if you aren't pregnant.
If you are pregnant, just be strong. If you want to have it, then have it. 29 years old is old enough to be a dad. If he didn't want to be a daddy he should have wrapped it up!
2006-12-29 02:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by April 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋