If you were married for 22 years would you get a divorce if your husband has been unfaithful for the whole tim

Question

My husband has been unfaithful for the whole 22 years and I stayed with him because my children was small, but now they are grown, my last child is 17 and about to be 18 , so should I get a divorce from him or not, I filed for one and he said he was not going to give me one, but I said to him I will fight you, anyway
its going to be costly, but I am thinking about getting a divorce.
so help me if you have been through this situation or or going through this situation.

Answer 1

if you can prove his being unfaithful the whole time then he is in for it under the law he is suppose to pay you until you remarried again child support my be out the question since they big but if your 17 year old decides to go to college the he will have to give money for him too if you have a house and your son is living there with you he needs to go only if the house was his before you too got married you wont be entitled to any of it but anything you 2 purchase during the last 22 years is consider as marital properties and it could be disputed over in court if you g thru with it and get a good lawyer you will get a good settlement good luck****

Answer 2

I feel for you, I know this is hard. You're torn between staying with what's comfortable, though not loving, or the unknown which is scary and costly. Honestly, you should move on. You have a choice of a slow nagging pain (staying) or a hard, quick pain (divorce and cost). The truth is that the latter has an end, when the former doesn't. Marriage is a vow, and lies break that vow. Longstanding lies destroy that vow, and the vow of trust must be there to have a decent marriage. One thing to remember is that after divorce you have a choice, and if you feel like getting back together, YOU set the terms rather than being stuck in terms that he controls.

Good luck and happy new year.

Answer 3

Well babes,
I take my hat off to you for sacrificing yourself for your children's well being but I do believe they would have been just as fine too if you had left the moment you found out ad felt hurt, and betrayed. I say divorce him if you are asking yourself this question you obviously know what you want. You deserve a chance at being happy I just suggest that you go out with realistic expectations. On the other hand though I know that a divorce can be messy and you may come out with less than you had when you began the marriage just be willing and understand the only thing you may leave with is finally your own piece of mind. Now that the children are older as well you should have that discussion with them as to why you are making this choice so that they don't feel like they played a role in it or hate you for leaving. Best of luck and may God's Blessings be upon you!

Answer 4

I'm not going to tell you to get a divorce...that's a personal decision.

However, I'll put myself in that scenario. I'd have a VERY hard time with living that life. I would have had a hard time living with it after finding out the first time. Knowing me and how I am, there is no way I could have lived with him and his constant philandering for 22 years. I would have snapped one day and hurt him. I would not think he had any respect or love for me OR OUR FAMILY. Screw him; I'd be out and I'd let him eat my dust! I'd also have taken his butt through court to make him do right by those kids financially.

From a legal standpoint...he can't stop you from moving out and separating. As for the divorce, check the laws in your state. Most have a provision where once you have established a separate domicile for a specific time (usually between 1-2 years), he can not refuse you a divorce. So, the court will dissolve the marriage whether he likes it or not.

Answer 5

First of all, if you want a divorce, he cannot stop you. He can TRY to fight all he wants, but if your kids are grown, there will be nothing to fight about. The assets and debt will be split 50/50 and you will go your seperate ways. He is just trying to scare you out of it. Don't let him do that!!!

If your "husband" has cheated on you for your entire marriage, then what kind of a "marriage" have you had? Don't you believe you deserve better than that? I hate to say it, but you have taught your children a terrible lesson on relationships and commitment by staying with him as long as you have. I hope they don't follow in his footsteps, or allow themselves to be treated the way you have been.

I have no doubt that you should leave him!!! Move on - make a New Year's resolution to NEVER be treated like that again!!

Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

I think you already know the answer to this. Yes, I think that for you to stay with a cheater, you will continue to be unhappy. You deserve happiness and I would never be able to even look at my husband let alone live in the same house with him if he cheated on me. I would get some opinions of who is a good lawyer and make some appointments. You have more rights than you can imagine and your husband HAS to give you a divorce if you file. Don't believe him. How could you believe him, he lies and cheats! Good luck.

Answer 7

If you are seriously considering a divorce, you should not have told him right off the bat. If you constantly threaten divorce, then you are ok for now. Get everything in order first, before you give him the papers to sign. No matter how bad a marriage is, Divorce is always hard. Especially for you since you have been married for so long. Make sure you have all your ducks in a row, before you go into this, you don't want to get screwed.

Answer 8

Life is too short. If your husband has been unfaithful for so many years it isn't worth it. He will not change. You have given way to many chances, more then I would.
Your kids are almost old enough that Child support shouldn't be an issue.
There are quick divorce that cost roughly 50-100 dollars.
I would get rid of him.
Move on to better things.

Answer 9

YES! I don't understand the reasoning of staying with someone for children's sake because an unhealthy marriage is not a good example for a kid, believe me. You stayed with him and now it's your turn to be with someone who is faithful and respects you. Divorce him and never look back! No one can make you stay with him. The divorce will go through whether he wants it or not. He doesn't even have to sign anything. That is a misconception that if one person doesn't want the divorce, you're forced to stay married. In fact, you can do the divorce yourself and it's cheaper. Goggle it and find out. You are not bound to this loser for the rest of your life, don't let him fool you!

Answer 10

I would divorce him for cheating regardless of how long we'd been together, or how many times it's happened. You deserve better. Get a lawyer, and hire a private investigator. He won't have any choice or say in the matter if he's busted. You will hold all the cards if you prove he's being unfaithful. Bide your time - you've waited this long. Good Luck.