Im 23 yrs old, I got my BA in June, I have a decent job, and im not married. Why do people think that you have to be married to have kids? I think im pregnant and if i am i want to keep my baby, but they all think its not right cause im not marreid. Why is that ok???
2006-12-29 01:50:19 · 14 answers · asked by Oh Boy!! 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm pregnant myself and not married. Of cause sometimes I would certainly like to be but it doesn't always work out that way. The most important thing is the love you have for your child, this love doesn't increase just because your married and your parenting skills aren't any different either. Those people that are telling you its not right to have the baby because your not married are very wrong. If they really cared and loved you then your circumstances shouldn't change anything. They cant expect you to give up a precious, innocent baby just because your not married!. Best of luck with you if you are defiantly pregnant!.
2006-12-29 02:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by MizK♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree Im 19 weeks pregnant and not married either. I have a partner and we are in a very close loving relationship for over 4 years now. We adore each other but both coming from broken families, see no need to marry. I believe LOVE is the most important ingredient for raising a child NOT marriage. Good luck to you honey, Ignore old fashioned fools and do what u feel is right for you and your child
2006-12-29 09:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a child and I'm not married. We live together and completed act like we're married. And someday we want to get married, but we're just not worried about it currently. Don't worry about what other people think. Being married has nothing to do with raising a child. They're probably just trying to find something wrong with you having a baby since you already said you have a good job.
2006-12-29 10:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few with some rather dated moral issues, but I think there's a case to be made for the basic legal protections that come with marriage.
Not, obviously, in all cases. Single parents who're well set up to be single parents should not be encouraged to marry jerks just for the sake of 'legitimising' a child.
But:
"Almost thirty-five percent of all pregnant couples chose not to marry before the birth of their child. Incredibly so, this illegitimacy label affects all social and economic aspects of the person and his family, including his father's paternity support, estate, inheritance, DNA health issues, as well as, federal, state, and local survivor benefits."
from http://societyofbastards.org/ which, er, seems to be run by people with interesting issues, at least...
2006-12-29 10:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant and not married at the time. I guess people think if you don't have a man to take care of you, so to speak, you wont make it. It is annoying. If you want to keep the baby, do it. I am tired of people using abortion as birth control. It is one thing if your raped, or have problems and HAVE to have one....another to just not want a baby and have one. I am glad to see you would want to keep your baby.
I am 22 and have a 6 month old baby. Good luck. it will be hard but worth it.
2006-12-29 10:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, im 19 and pregnant (and not married) and I personally feel that u should be married before having children. it's a religious belief for me, however i would never condemn anyone for having children outside of marriage. Most of the people i know had children without being wed and have wonderful lives. whatever floats ur boat. Good luck and congrats if u are preggy!!!!
2006-12-29 10:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by mzsouthernprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u are right there is nothing rong that u are not married and having a baby i have one and i am not married and i think that u should not get married just because u are having one there are alot of people that get married because there is a baby invalved and thats not right because u are not doing this because u love the man because people think that u need to be to have a baby. You know it stoped people from saying anything about it when i said are you going to be payng for it and the devorse and then they stop talking about it
2006-12-29 10:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by megryanmc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only issue I have is the fact that a well rounded household is getting lost in the shuffle. There is no doubt that children fare much better in a two parent household.
I have no personal issues with it...I just think it is kind of sad. I have been there, as a former single parent.
2006-12-29 10:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, that is how society thinks and we cannot do anything to change it. It's a matter of opinion and we all know about opinions...
Your best bet is to politely ignore, there is no reasoning with people that have made up their mind about certain things. If you feel capable emotionally and financially, then don't worry about what people think, do the best you can.
2006-12-29 11:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by earthstarlatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are still stuck in the old way of thinking where you have to be married to have children.
Don't worry about what other people think as long as you're happy!
2006-12-29 09:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by kista_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋