Does anyone wish to have made mistakes in life?

Question

I've always been the 'good girl' all my life. Now, I'm regreting it!! I'm over 30, and a doctor by profession...married to a doctor who's cheated on me!! I have never been with anyone else other than my current husband!
Looking back, I wish I made more mistakes in my life so that I could learn from them. I sometimes think about cheating or other bad things just to get over this 'goody two shoes' stigma!!!
Does anyone understand where I'm coming from or am I just a confused soul??
Please give me your honest opinion.

Answer 1

You are just bitter & confused by your current situation.
You sound like a good person that anyone would want to have.
Men prefer good / faithful women..
It is probably not your fault that your hubby cheated on you.
Do you satisfy all of his sexual desires and requests ?
Are you a loving pleasant wife & companion ?
If so, then he has no reason to seek satisfaction elsewhere.
His fault, not yours..
Self recrimminations are not deserved or called for...

Answer 2

I am a christian raised by a christian family. I was such a nerd in Highschool. I didnt really blossom I would say or get mscle on my body until the end of my senior year. As soon as I left my house I went to college and joined a Fraternity and started to mature. Suddenly I was attractive. Talking to girls was easy and the thing to do was party. So I did that throughout college sleeping with anyone who anyone thought was hot. And drank and did all kind of drugs under the sun. Got arrested 3 times, I was going to school to be a lawyer and I got a DUI. Ad you cant take the Bar exam with a DUI so I joined the Marines to get it off my record. And I kept partying like hell doing God knows what. I could go on for days about crazy ****. And thenone day I found out I had HPV. ANd then it hits you. Now I feel like I will never have the life you talk about. A marriage, kids or anything like that. Thats a mistake I wish I had never made. I have always been the person who has to learn from experience. So being wild was bad for me. I think maybe a little bit of both sides work but to much of anyting is bad lol.m I dont know why bad things happen to people. Just do what make you happy. If your happy being a "gody two shoes" stay that way. Dont change because someone else thinks your too good.

Answer 3

Only if you learn something by the mistakes you made. I understand where you're coming from. Sometimes I wish I never made all the mistakes I have, but then I think about things that I have learned from them and I feel better. No regrets. No looking back only to the future which I hope is mistake free now for me. Don't make mistakes on purpose. You may not learn anything from them then.

Answer 4

"Does anyone understand where I'm coming from or am I just a confused soul??"

Wouldn't doing what angers you at present confuse you even more? I don't know, it seems like back then you decided not to have those problems in your life .... must have been faith and parental guidance you didn't have to worry about what hubby has to worry about now. Do you realize how many young women today regret not having the strength and wisdom you had and according to your post still have? Your husband is in double trouble first with God then with the marital bond in the eyes of the Lord....I wouldn't go there if I were you. I hope he repents and chooses to kick Satan into yesterday and honor his role in the eyes of God - you are one in the flesh. What can you do to encourage hubby to do so? I would pray about it. I prayed for you before I wrote this sentence. Ephesians 6:11

Answer 5

I understand you 100%. Growing up I too was the nice girl next-door. The straight A student. The piano-playing, choir-singing, hard-working teenager with good manners and charming looks. All my friends' parents loved me and encouraged their kids to hang out with me.

When my parents suddenly died I thought alot about the meaning of life and the choices we make. I decided to put fun and friendships before everything else and to take more chances.

I have had some super years doing things my mum wouldn't have liked (driving a motorbike, partying all night, parachuting etc. etc.) and guess what - I have still managed to get a great career, raise a beautiful step-daughter and meet a wonderful boyfriend.

So start taking chances. Don't be stupid and do ridiculous things, but go ahead and date different men, take evening classes, go on trekking holidays in Tibet or whatever you feel like doing but haven't had the opportunity to do before.

It is not too late.

Good luck!

Answer 6

It has always been my dream to go to medical school and become a doctor. However, I went to college to get away from my parents and to goof off, sleep late, miss classes, major in something I had no interest in, and party. Now I'm 42 years old and stuck in a job I absolutely cannot stand, living paycheck to paycheck because I made such stupid decisions and mistakes. I totally missed the "doctor" boat and now it's too late. So I guess I kind of have the opposite problem as you. I kind of understand what you mean, though.

Answer 7

You are not a confused soul. It is too bad that he has treated you like this. I dont really wish I had made mistakes but I am learning from people a lot and making my decision very carefully. I dont think suddenly doing things out of character will be of any help. You are who you are, just be cautious of the choices you make.

Answer 8

no u really don't wish u had been anyone other than who u are. as u can look back without regret, some only have a lifetime of mistakes to look back on. don't let what your hubby did to u change who u are. don't look back with regret for always doing right. your a doctor, someone who helps the emotionally and physically sick. if hubby cheated don't think of even putting yourself into his category, your you, your unique, if u want to divorce hubby, and find someone else, that's fine, but don't ever stoop down to his level or the level of those he is cheating with.

Answer 9

First off I'm sorry your husband cheated on you but...two wrongs don't make a right. If you want to stay with your husband then the two of you should see a counselor. Personally I wouldn't stay with someone who cheated, then again I'm not married. However If you feel his cheating is reason enough to leave, then leave. Staying with him and cheating isn't going to do anything but make things worse. I don't have the all the answers for you, you need to do what feels right...but you need to make a decision, cheating isn't going to help. Good luck!

Answer 10

I think you have made mistakes. I think you wish you didnt have this stigma of a good girl. Leave your husband. I think that was a mistake and hopefully you have learned from it.