My Husband and I are at odds with one another regarding returning to our sons football team next season.?

Question

I wrote in a couple of weeks ago about the whoreish team mom that flirts with everybodys husband. Well I finally got a chance to let her know that I was on to her in a non confrontational way. I was told by another parent that I drive her crazy because of my clothes and shoes and overall appearance of "perfection". Nobody is perfect I just love fashion. I was told that she viewed my husband as a challenge because I think that I am so perfect. She is just a divorced miserable tramp that doesn't want anyone to be happy because her marriage didn't work. I don't want to return to where she and her friend are. They were nasty to me at all times for no reason. They would purposely only pose questions about our son to my husband. I won't be so kind the next time. I also got sick of traveling so far for a game..he can play with another team and I could have more peace. My husband says that it is not about adults but the kids. My husband was jealous over a certain Coach that flirts with me.

Answer 1

sometimes we have to do things for our kids that we dont like or are uncomfortable with,,yes this woman tries it on with the men but that is just her insecurity,,if she can make your,or another womans husband look at her that way she might feel not so much as a failure and i wouldnt take it personally,,,,,,she fact she is intimidated by you and your desire to look nice is quite sad really and if you let her drive you away she wont stop,,she will just move onto someone else to dislike,,,,does she really know you that well as to hate you? i doubt it,,,treat it as it is,,her pathetic attempts at making people feel bad. your son is part of a team and that does count for something and unless he too is having problems with other kids he wont understand why you are taking him away and placing him with another team,,this is a female problem not a males,,if you see what i mean,,,she is a cow and likes it,,,put on your clobber,,check the heals of your shoes,,buff your nails and pop on your lippy,,,,,,you need to look good for when you give her a wave and a smile,,,,,she doesnt have to know she bothers you really,does she!

Answer 2

Despite the disappointing finish to the season, my Dodgers don't have to do all that much to improve. With a full year to mesh personalities, the lineup should come together, and the thought of Kemp/Ethier/Crawford/Gonzales/Ramirez being a core part of that lineup should strike fear into the hearts of opposing pitchers. If Dee Gordon recovers from the injury and evolves his hitting a bit more, we'll have a potent 1-2 punch of Gordon and Crawford to set the table for the big bats. Meanwhile, the starters are good, if not great. Kershaw of course will likely be the same dominant top 5 pitcher that he's been the last few years, and Beckett is solid behind him (even if Beckett's lost a step). Beyond that, we have a few promising young pitchers that can plug in holes if pitchers like Harang and Capuano don't repeat their success of last year. No, where the holes are is the bullpen; it was absolutely wretched this year. While I wouldn't mind seeing the Dodgers pursue Greinke or Jackson in the offseason, they'd better do their best to pick up some relievers that can eat up innings and not lose leads. Finally, I wouldn't mind seeing a new second baseman, Kennedy is too old, Hairston too old and too injured, and while we have a lot of guys with utility potential, finding a solid second baseman would shore up that right side of the infield a lot.

Answer 3

If your son wants to play on that team and has friends there, it would be a little selfish of you to tell him he couldn't because you don't get along with the parents.

As long as you and your husband both understand the situation and he isn't being drawn in by the flirtatious woman, and you aren't getting drawn in by the coach, don't let these people interfere with your son's happiness. You will be teaching him to run away from problems rather than confronting them head on.

Go to the games and take pride in the fact that this lady, no matter how hard she tries, will never get your husband. Laugh at what a shameless floozy she is being and how lame her attempt is. Tell your husband that the coach's flirting doesn't effect you in the slightest. Then laugh together after the games about these pitiful people who are so desperate that they need to resort to going after other people spouses in order to validate themselves. If you just treat it as a pathetic joke and laugh at them, they will see that they aren't getting under your skin and they will start backing off. All they are trying to do is break you, and you are letting them. Don't give them the satisfaction.

Answer 4

kudos to you. stop the tramp while you can, do not ever overlook anything. your husband is upset cause maybe he thinks you trying to tell him what to do. there is another way of handling this. tell your husband what he wants to hear, but when the occasion arises then make a innocent move to do different. you see this tramp knows she is causing problems with your family and is loving it. you should never acknowledge to a tramp that she is effecting you. the football team thing well, there is probally man reason why your husband wants your son on this team. maybe it will give him good potential for future teams in high school, college, even pros, so let him lead, i know the long distance that you travel for the games are nerve wrecking, but let me say you child will only be little once, then they are grown and gone. please listen. enjoy these trips and try to make them a fun full filling one memorable one, you child will never forget these memories. go slow and just say what the husband wants to hear for now about the team. i promise you won't be sorry!!!!

Answer 5

ok, question answered..everything you wrote was fluff..the last 2 sentences were all I needed to read. ok the Coach flirting thing, you shouldn't have let it go on, especially if you KNOW it makes hubby mad. You got dressed up like that so the coach would flirt with you. Sounds like ya wanna bone the coach to me. No way should you be ALLOWING another man to flirt with you when married, ESPECIALLY in front of your hubby. So in short you are flirting with a coach because, some Whore mom who you heard 3rd or 4th person wants to flirt with your hubby. Because she is a tramp, you are taking it out on your hubby by flirting with another guy. Think about that for a minute. You are playing a game you can't win. She is divorced, no man to flirt with. SHE WINS, YOU LOSE. She already has won,she has drove ya bonkers enough to have you writing on here about it

Answer 6

First, I think that returning to that football team should be your sons choice, not yours or your husbands.

Secondly, if I were you I would go to every game with your appearance of "perfection" and kill that tramp with kindness. But if she tries to cross the line with your husband I would suggest telling her off and telling her to back off or its not going to be pretty. If you can't make a game have someone else go for you to keep an eye on the tramp. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

You and your husband are BOTH playing the feild against each other. It is both of your responsibility to put these people in their place.
Your lack of respect for eachother in this respect, is an attempt to show each other that you are desireable by others and that your spouse should treat you better/love you more.
This never works.
You both have a responsibility to keep people at arms length and let them know you are very married.
This is emotional cheating, and is the cause of more break-ups then physical cheating.
You both should talk and agree to let those poeple know that you are unavailable. Basically give them the cold shoulder.
The worst part is having to reconsider your childs choices because of the parents selfishness.

Answer 8

This all sounds childish to me. You are mad because a women is flirting with him he is mad a man is flirting with you. The main concern should be the kids. If I were you I wouldn't want to expose my child to the whore, not because I was afraid my husband would f her but because she isn't a good example. Coaches should be respectable people. The kids look up to them and look them for direction. If she dresses like a whore then I wouldn't want my child around her. End of story. If my husband didn't like that or couldn't respect that then I would tell him to go to hell and do what is best for my child anyway.

Answer 9

Sounds like a good time to discuss an open marriage arrangement because after all variety is the spice of life .
You both seem to enjoy the flirtatious advances of other people and going the next step is only natural . This does not mean you have to break up or stop doing the things you enjoy with your son just because you are human and desire other people .

Answer 10

Your husband is correct. You are not in high school any longer, so stop acting like you are. This is about your children not about how you feel about another mom. Rise above the nonsense and show your son that you can handle yourself in any situation. Be polite and social and don't allow this woman to push your buttons.