2006-12-29 01:15:18 · 8 answers · asked by neutral 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One day at a time, little by little. My ex left me for another man 12 years ago, day before yesterday, and I too, wasted a lot of years with her. The most terrible thing would be if I let THAT ruin the NEXT 30 years of my life, so I refuse to do that. Get out, start dating again, and LIVE the rest of your life! It's the ONLY one you have. Good Luck!!
2006-12-29 01:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on this: Only Time is wasted! If you really felt love for this man, than you have earned sentimental intelligence. Stay with this knowledge, turn the debt to credit and say that now, after 30 years, a new period in you life starts. Now, you have experience -not miserable feelings-, you know what to love and be loved means, you know what you expect from others. So, think of your life as making a new start. It is never late. And, it is sad to say that the best lessons are the ones given from heartaches... Be optimistic. Leave the past behind, think that even from wasted time you have earned knowledge and keep going. Look ahead. Good luck
2006-12-29 09:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky to have had 30 years. Some are happy with 30 days. Be greatful for what you got. Move on. Learn to live for the now and the future. The past cannot be recovered and you will waste the time you have for what you already got. No one can take the past from you but don't let the past rob your now and future. Re-evaluate what you may have done wrong in the past. Ask others what you may have done wrong because thinking you know yourself will never give you an honest answer. Step outside yourself and figure out what part you have done wrong to end up alone. Re-adjust and move on. People also have a tendency to choose a duplicate of the last partner they had. It is how we profile and leads to the same problem. Learn to pick somone the opposite of what you picked before.
2006-12-29 09:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't get over it. It's a part of your life. But now, it's time to move on to the next chapter. You may be looking back at this question in a few months with a new and better love by your side and starting on the next 30 years!!!
Good luck!
2006-12-29 09:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married 37-1/2 years and went with my ex 2 years before we were married . He left me for my youngest sister . I feel like I wasted my life as well. You feel so deserted. You feel like your heart and soul have been torn out. I have to take a day at a time. One hour at a time. I cry and pray. Then it comes down to just praying every day to help get thur the day. It does get better, but a little at a time. It has been 4 years and it seems like yesterday. But today is a new day and you go on. You face what you have to face and smile. Time will heal but it will take time. God bless you and keep the faith. God will be by your side he never leaves us.
2006-12-29 09:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Morning! Find a bright spot every single day. It can just be that your coffee tastes especially good today. Give yourself some time to heal. Reach inside your soul and find the "little child" that is hurting. Hold and comfort that child. I am so sorry about this happening to you. I have wanted so much to be married to someone for a long time, and it is not in the cards for me. Take good care of YOU. Be gentle with yourself. Do something just for you. Go back toschool and take something that you are interested in. Volunteer somewhere where you can help someone else. That will take your focus off of your problems and you will feel good about yourself knowing that you have blessed someone else. OK...listen to me...YOU HAVE THIS ONE DAY to cry and grieve. Just TODAY!!! Tomorrow morning, get up and begin a new day JUST FOR YOU!!! And the next day get up and begin a new day just for you!! Fix yourself a favorite breakfast with the china and crystal and have WHAT YOU WANT. Do this for lunch and dinner, too! Even if it is just a pb&j with cheetos, spoil YOURSELF! YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!!! and usually, we are the only ones that can do that for ourselves. I am praying for you! Big SQUEEEEEZE...
2006-12-29 09:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by kmoc123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that can help you is time my friend. I wish there was some magic information I could tell you, but that is not how it is. A broken heart will eventualy mend. There may be permanent damage done, but you will find a "new" normal. Good luck.
2006-12-29 09:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would ever get over it. 30 years is a long time.
2006-12-29 09:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋