Do you think my punishment is fair?

Question

I'm 13, my mom was on a trip and my grandma took care of me. I did what I shouldn't, joined a bad crowd, did wrong stuff. When mom came back she grounded me. She got to know I also disrespected one of her rules I have to dress with modesty and I always wear a bra. I disobeyed, when she was out I didn't wear a bra cause I don't like. I was disrespectful and she gave me another punishment. Till Feb 10 I have to wear a shapewear, that is, that piece of underwear tha covers all of your torso and clips at your crotch and has straps over the shoulders. They cover a lot of my breasts and are made of very thick tissue, makes me sweat a lot. Kinda uncomfortable, but I have too keep it on all day long, except to bed. I hate that thing but mom is being strict. I'm not totally grounded, she allows me some fun, I can play tennis but wearing shapewear Shes treating me with love, but doesnt back off She said Hun,you disobeyed, now be patient, you'll wear your shapewear I HATE IT!!! And it's hot here

Answer 1

Punishments don't last forever, and she could have decided to make it much worse than having to wear a bodysuit (shapewear that encases your torso) for all that you did. I think that she is being very fair in her choice of discipline, especially since you are still allowed to do things you enjoy.

While I do sympathise with your plight, you have to remember that she is trying to be the best mom that she can. It's not easy raising a child from birth to adult. I think her point that she is trying to get you to understand is that bras aren't so bad, especially in comparison to a bodysuit. When you first start having to wear them, most girls feel they an evil to be avoided after years of unrestricted freedom. It's hard to get used to a band around your chest when before you had nothing there. But bras do serve a purpose.
She wants you to grow up to be a woman of morals and dignity. Often, women who don't wear a bra are seen by others as trashy, or even trampy. She doesn't want that for you, especially at your young age when some older guys, and even grown men, prey on young impressionable girls.
For your future, many companies want women to wear bras to work. If you never learn to adjust to the feel of one, you may find yourself missing out on job oppertunities due to your dress code.
As you grow and develop, often times a girl's breasts need the support to avoid back pain. While you may not have large breasts, even a B cup can be uncomfortable for some girls because their body muscles just haven't developed at the same rate, and can't support the wieght of the breasts properly. A bra distributes the weight from the front of the chest to the back and shoulders, which are much stronger muscle areas.
And as a fully matured woman, the larger sizes do the the support because breasts can weight over 20 pounds (10kg) when matured. Imagine having to get used to wearing a bra at 25 when you had never worn one before.

Wearing one now, before you need one, helps you to prepare for when you do. Try to appreciate that your mother loves you very much, and is trying her best to be a good mom and teacher to you.

Answer 2

At least its in the Winter when its cooler out. If its still hot try using a fan.
You may not realize it but she does have your best interests in mind.
You might talk to your mom about finding a different type of bra that isn't uncomfortable to wear after Feb 10th but speak respectfully to your parents they are more likely to be understanding if you don't disrespect them and start arguing with them, that will just cause most parents to lay down the law on you. My daughter used to like the sports type but since she has developed more she finds them uncomfortable so we found some that are more comfortable. You'll find as you get older that they help to keep them in place so you don't bounce all over and look like a person of very loose morals.

Answer 3

It seems that your mom wants the best for you...I know you hear that all the time, but I promise by this punishment she will be preventing something worse from hapenning later. Her punishment might not be fair or maybe it is. The main thing you need to keep in mind is that she is your mom and she is in charge of you right now until you leave the house. If you respect her decision and don't complain about your punishment, she may lift up the punishment and you won't have to wait until Febuary 10. HERE IS AN IMPORTANT WORD OF ADVICE....when you get off your punishment, don't go right back to the way you were...please your mom and wear what she would want you to wear. She will then think you have learned your lesson and she will be extremely happy...if you have to slip back into what you used to wear, then you can...just wait a while after your punishmetn is up and see what happens...you might be surprised if you just respect your parents..... GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

fair...i don't know.
strange...perhaps.
i've never heard of someone having to wear undergarment shapers as a punishment.
i mean, let the punishment fit the crime, so if you are not allowed to go bra-less (a little odd to me), but if that's the rule and you knowingly broke it, then i guess the punishment fits the crime.

some shapewear is nice and breathable and can be sexy, but i'm thinking that this isn't in your case.
check out Spanx shapewear and see if mom will let you wear that! celebrities like oprah swear by spanx and i myself will sport some spanx on occasion:)

take care.

Answer 5

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Do you think my punishment is fair?
I'm 13, my mom was on a trip and my grandma took care of me. I did what I shouldn't, joined a bad crowd, did wrong stuff. When mom came back she grounded me. She got to know I also disrespected one of her rules I have to dress with modesty and I always wear a bra. I disobeyed, when she was...

Answer 6

I am a mother of two girls, 21 and 15.
The important thing to remember, she loves you no matter what.
We punish to have you learn a lesson.
Have you?
I take it you have.
You will never do it again. You have to understand how important it is to wear a bra. Gravity is not your friend in later years. As you grow older, breasts tend to sag, (I know it is disgusting, sorry) causing shoulder and back pain. The more you wear a bra the less they will move. Your Mom is just trying to save you pain in the future, out of love. My girls never go without a bra, except at bedtime or a bathing suit . I hope I have helped you. Good luck.

Answer 7

Um this is kind of odd.From what your saying it sounds like she has some issues,most likely with her own body,and she is taking it out on you.You should respect your mother,but that punishment is going a little to far.Talk to her,tell her you will wear the bra (you do need to wear one,as a young woman you are devoloping breasts and it is now inapproate for anyone to see them and because you will be stuck with it for the rest of your life) Try talking to her.I hope I helped GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

That is the weirdest punishment I have ever heard. Try and negotiate with her. Ask her if there is another punishment, perhaps a longer grounding w/out wearing the shapewear.

Answer 9

Sounds like your mom is being severe because she wants you to learn your lesson. Maybe you could talk to her about how uncomfortable it is and ask for something in between. If you really hate bras, their are cami's that have a built in shelf-bra that might be more comfortable. Obviously, being a lady is very important to your mom. She probably does not want to you to appear 'loose". Talking with her calmly might be your best bet.

Answer 10

ok- if you have any boobs at all you should have been wearing a bra in the first place- hello your 13! your mom shouldn't have to make you wear a bra, you should just do it. 2nd...your mom has to teach you that your actions come with consequences. 3rd... you totally should not be disrespectful to your mom. i'm a 15 yr old girl (who wears a bra without my mom making me) and I learned that you never disrespect an adult- especially your mom! she could turn out to be one of your best friends!