, I loved a guy I gave him every thing you can imagine , I adored him, many great guys tried to talk to me but I refused them all, why? Cause I was faithful to him, how stupid I am.
I spent my nights thinking of him,,,, while he was making love to another woman, how stupid I am.. when I remember that I feel that I'm gonna vomit " sorry but this is what happens",
I loved him with all my heart, I was ready to give him my soul if he asked my to do, but,,, now I think my soul and my heart are more important than this guy or any guy in this world, he cheated on me, he knew 18 woman while he is in love with me ,do you believe that? How could he have time for all those women,, sometimes I feel that I'm dreaming ,,!!! May be I loved a ghost, now I can't trust any man, I see all men are alike,, sometimes I feel lonely but feeling lonely much better than staying a man,
merry christmas men
2006-12-29
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Not all men are bad. As they say there are more fish in the sea, youm just picked a rotten one. Don't let him do this ever again.
2006-12-29 02:07:05
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answered by Paul H 3
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Frist of all, not ALL men are heartless. I too went through a similar relationship, actually, I was did not love "myself" enough to see what I was doing. A guy, the right guy, will treat you with respect and unconditional love. My advice comes from my experience, so here it goes.
Give yourself time to grow. Become more involved in making yourself "better". Go to the gym, read, go places where you are surrounded by people who treat you the way you want to be treated. When you say heart and soul, that sounds desperate. You should not have to work that hard to keep someone's love. Once you build your confidence up again, look for guys who have a concerted interest in you as a person, someone who makes you laugh, someone who goes above and beyond your expectations. I don't mean material things either, I mean true emotional expectation.
That guy was a rat, what goes around comes around. He is lost too, or does not have the tools to make anyone happy. Think of the poor girls he is doing this to now, and know you are better off because it is in your PAST! Time to move on sister!
2006-12-29 08:53:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Your heart is broken, and you feel harsh toward all men for what he's done to you. I am sorry to hear that. I have had those same feelings. I tell you what though, you need to pray about the situation, trust me you will feel better. Then make yourself busy, very busy. That way you will not be sitting around all the time thinking about him. At first, it's all you're gonna think about, but as long as you stay busy, the days go by,and it gets easier. Trust me, I have been there, and I thought the feelings wouldn't ever go away. I hated all men, but it does get better, and it does take time. Good luck, honey. There is a man out there for you.
2006-12-29 08:42:04
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answered by In love with Life 3
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awwwwwwwww first of all let me say that i am touched by ur love towards him. That idiot certainly doesn't kn what he is missing. He can cheat on u with all the women in the world, but he wont find anything rather than quick satisfaction from them. tell him to go fuc8 off. he certainly doesn't deserve that magnitude of love from u. And no, not all men are like that. I, for once have a story similar to urs. To cut the crap, i used to luv this hot girl in my hs (i was, and still am, totally in luv with her). She was like the hottest girl in my high school, and she like me too. We used to have so much fun together. She laughed at every single one of my jokes. Even if i said the most corniest/cheesiest thing ever, she'd still laugh at it. But, since i was ugly, i always felt sacred at the though of expressing my feelings to her. I think either she was just flirting with me or she got tired of waiting for me but she moved on. I still miss her to this day . But i still luv her to this day, despite the fact that i will never see her again. And no woman will ever take her place. So u see, not all men are alike.
2006-12-29 11:18:27
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answered by Sultan Cartman 5
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it is not a person on this planet that has not, had their heart broken at some point and time,don't let anyone stop you from loving and living life because of this cheating guy ,everyone deserve a chance and should not be judge by another one action.All men are not alike thank goodness
2006-12-29 08:57:36
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answered by ladybug 6
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You'll meet many a heartless guy along the way. Meet as many as you can as friends, and eventually you'll meet the guy who treats you like you deserve to be treated and that you will give your heart and soul too. I've been looking, and thing I might just finally have found him. I think...
2006-12-29 08:53:20
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answered by Anonymous
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That is just the way they are. My grandfather was horrible to my mom after my grandma died unexpectedly a few years ago.He took everything out on he, even cussed her out because someone he was doing business with did not return his phone call quickly enough! He is better now but their relationship is still affected by it, they are not as close as they were before she died.He was very angry about her death, and took it out on my mom even though she lost my her mother, my grandmother also. Men are just more self centered than women.
2006-12-29 08:52:05
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answered by Anonymous
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i have a similar story....but i was very young so i dont blame anyone for this but this experience did turn me even more feminist....men think they can treat women as inferiors and use them however they want...
i once knew this guy...worried about him more than i did for myself...i motivated him to make his grades go up and he did things for me he hung out with me...gave me that attention and i thought i was in love with him and thought no other guy could replace the place he had taken in my life...
and i was sure he would love me back...and he did...or at least i thought my definition of love was his definition but he was just out to have some fun and impress his friends that he had a girl..its as though i became his property as soon as he found out my feelings for him...
and then he started getting all touchy and i dont like that..i didnt do anything with him except hand out with him more...but he expected more...a month into our so called relationship i said to him 'werent we better as friends?" and he said "so you wanna go back to being friends"
i cant tell you how shocked i was then...so we werent friends all this time? what did you take me for?
but i was happy that this was over like he said "i will still love you but we will end this so that people think we are friends" and i couldnt have been happier to know that my reputaton that he was giving me as his gf was over.
then the next day on he pretended to not know me and said so much crap about me behind my back and throguhout this time i respected him and didnt say a single thing against him...he even said that he was the one who broke up with m when he didnt even have the guts to do that
and then five months later after he dated the biggest skank ever for four days he came back and told me what a big mistake he made and that he wanted to be with me again because he loved me...when i said ok then prove you are sorry do you know what he did a few days later? he asked my best friend out and started harrassing her!
then a year later we are in present time, he comes back and randomly he emails me and says that it was great talking to me again and he wants to thank me for giving him the best time of his life! how wrong did that sound in so many ways?
this is how heartless 99% of men are because i havent yet met a man who treats a woman like he should...and i thought i'd never get over the shock of this and even better id never stop loving him but the last two times he was rejected...and the reason being that in those five months i haad gone on vacation and in a gift store i read this quote on something:
"whenever one door closes another opens, but we often stare so long at the closed door that we dont see the new door that has opened."
--alexander graham bell
this quote changed my life...simply by reading it one day...i thought about it and realized that by giving him the right to dominate my life, i had made it worthless in my own eyes.
my responsibility toward him ended the day he made his decision....and this was my decision.
remember "no man is worth your tear and the one who is will never make you cry"
and the opposite of love, dear, is not hate but indiference...i feel indifference for him because hate too is a relationship and i want to have nothing to do with him...he has my respect because i have dignity for myself which i will never sacrifice for him.
2006-12-29 13:43:49
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answered by Anonymous
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Because all they think about is themselves, and by the time they realize the world does not revolve around them alone, its usually too late...
Love does hurt sometimes, I hope you get through this quickly and find someone who genuinely deserves your attention and love
2006-12-29 09:01:53
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answered by momof3 5
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just forget bout that guy, not all d men r like that.... some r really honest n loving... i'm sure u'll find 1 like that... just look around/... lost 1 foun 10!!!!! contact me :)))
2006-12-29 09:10:42
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answered by rrru888 2
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