i just moved across an ocean and i hate it....ho wdo i cope?

Question

i just moved from texas to the netherlands...in europe. and i hate it here. instead of being happy on x-mas i was crying my eyes out. how do i cope?

Answer 1

I moved to someplace with a totally different language and what seemed like millions of miles away from home. At first I cried a lot too and I missed everything about home. I had to let go of my dog and say goodbye to my friends. You'll learn to cope with it in time like I did. Go out and visit nice places (where you live) with your family, immerse yourself in the new culture and meet the locals. Don't think of it as a burden but as an adventure! Good luck, you can do it!

Answer 2

OJ, what a culture shock for you! I have lived in different countries and each time it was an adventure as well as a difficult adjustment in some ways.
You didnt say where in Holland so I can not really form an image of how different it is for you from where you lived in Texas, but the culture IS different, possibly faster paced and more enterprising and free than what you were used to.
Bad time to move too, over a season that holds such traditions and expectations.. one daydreams about how it was and family and friends. An emotional time indeed. Even though the majority speak English, still there is that barrier with some people and trying to fit in is NOT easy.
Maybe you and/ or possibly a partner work there and cannot just plan to go back or maybe you are studying there?

Big change for you.. very big! If you can stomach it, hold out for a couple of years and if you still feel the same, go back home. IF you have the money, visit family back home too. Try also to find something positive to write your loved ones about, to impress them with what YOU are impressed with also, some sites, the taste of certain foods, someone nice you have met, gardens or other sites. Take digital fotos of anything and everything you find beautiful or pretty or quaint and send them to friends and relatives via email and look up the history of things and places and send that too. At the same time you are learning a little about the dutch people and what they have endured and how far they have come. If little steps like this help you to see this land and its people in a more positive light, you also have then a little more strength to deal with the day to day stress of being away from home and everything comfortable you had and want so badly.

veel geluk en sterkte, meisje, en gelukkig nieuw jaar!!
Yes, the language is also a barrier, I know, and they don't talk with that neat Texas drawl there. but, I wrote.
lots of luck and strength, girl, and a fortunate new year.

Answer 3

I'm sure you'll feel better once school starts, and you start making friends. If you're not in school anymore, you'll feel better once you've met friends.

It's difficult to adapt to a totally different culture, but there are interesting things in every country. At first, you'll probably criticize everything you see there, but after a while, you'll gte used to it, and I'm sure you'll end up liking a lot of things over there.

Can't be more specific as I don't know how old you are. I'm French and I moved to a French island in the Indian Ocean when I was 11. I had been there on holiday before, so it wasn't really a cultural shock for me (my father was from there). But it was great because it was a multi-cultural island, and I became very open-minded and curious of other cultures because of that.

The fact that they speak a different language in the Netherlands (although they usually speak English quite well) might be a bit tough at the beginning. And also, since you were from Texas, it might be a bit difficult to adapt to the weather (I live in England, now, so I know!).

But you really need to make the most of it, otherwise you'll just be wasting your time. I know it's easy to say, but you'll see that you'll slowly get used to all the new things around you. I hope this feeling comes sooner than later.

Answer 4

Go to Amsterdam and check out a coffee shop. that should cheer ya up.

But in all honesty, try looking for things about the culture that is the same as ours. After that try to appreciate some of the good things about the cultural differences.(like coffee shops! lol!).

I wish you the best of luck and all the happiness in the world

Answer 5

Make some friends, get involved in the social scene, hang out with the locals. If they know your out of the country they will help you adjust. Look at the positives the country has to offer you.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Try to be optimistic about it - don't know your personal reasons for changing, but there must be a brighter side !!!

Look for it in 2007 ... and you'll probably find it ...


Bonne Année and good luck !

:^)

Answer 8

what a culture shock!!! give it some time, you will some find friends and start socializing, I know that you must be very home sick, but hang in there OK, best wishes