he has like thousands and thousands of movies and pics saved on the computer. he said that it is just for variety when he does't fell like have sex or when i am deployed he has something to do. but does a man really need that many. he downloads them like on a daily basis. what can or should i do? i'm not really comfortable with him having it in the house. and yes i have told him countless amount of times but he still does it. any suggestions
2006-12-28 23:40:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes he is my husband
2006-12-28 23:50:18 · update #1
Think about it. He's doing it every day. He has "thousands and thousands" of them. If we were talking about drinks or about hits to his arm wouldn't you say he was an addict?
Of course he's an addict. And he's also not listening when you tell him you're uncomfortable. He in now an inconsiderate, out of control addict.
What you do about that is up to you. If it were me I would give him an ultimatum. He can go for help today with me in tow, or he can go back to his mama - with all of his porn under his arm.
If you love him - give him one chance to clean up. If you hate him already then toss him.
2006-12-28 23:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem. If he is boyfriend the tell him bye. Things aren't going to get any better probably get worse. Why should you have to feel uncomfortable. If he is a husband get him help. Obsessions of any kind are unhealthy. He needs a good psychologist. Good Luck
2006-12-29 07:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Chillin-it 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Giggles you need to invest some time and money in to making your own sex dvd with another woman . Call several escort services till you find one that does girl on girl dates .
The n get freaky with this chic and record it all and bring some toys along for you girls to play with .
Present this to hubby and till him that you better not ever catch him with any other pics .
2006-12-29 08:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by -----JAFO---- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Addicted to porn?? I would think so. So's my son in law, my daughter has set the computer up just like you would set up a cable box to keep kids off certain channels. This might work since he seems not to be able to control himself.
2006-12-29 07:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is addicted... if u noticed the man cares a damn how u feel.... if ur not married, i suggest u call it quits and if u are married its high time he saw a shrink.... a marriage is based on love and understanding.... he does not understand the way u feel.... may be he feels ur not worth all that trouble... or he feels " whatever i do, she will find the heart to forgive and understand me"..... he has to respect ur feelings.... he also could be addicted... in that case , he has to see a shrink.... this could lead to other problems .... better do something about it quick....
2006-12-29 07:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're talking about porn, right?
well people all have their different tastes and needs, but relationships can't work unless you can see eye to eye on the issue.
he's not listening to you because you haven't taken any actual steps to stop it. of course he'll keep up with it if he knows you won't do anything to stop him.
you gotta sort out if you can deal with this forever, and i suspect you don't want to.
yes, in my opinion, porn can be an addiction.
2006-12-29 07:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK HE IS ADDICTED TO PORNO MOVIES. THIS IS NOT BAD, MAY BE A LITTLE ABNORMAL IF HE HAS REALLY THOUSANDS AND THOUSAND. POSSIBLY HE HAS NOT VERY MUCH INTEREST IN THE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE AND THIS IS A DIFFERENT PROBLEM.
2006-12-29 08:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by dublinfirst 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he stops being with you and prefers his pics then its an issue.... until then its just a guy thing. Personally I wouldnt be concerned.
2006-12-29 07:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by kitty.hicks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry gigglebut he is addicted. the next thing will be "it was here before you and it will be here after you" your best bet would be to remove yourself from him and his addiction and find a guy who wants you.
2006-12-29 07:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by bonfireheat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
. He's addicted - probably a little deviant. Time to move on.
2006-12-29 07:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋