i went to a wedding recently and i met this guy. hes really nice and i started to like him a lot. my sister didnt know about his though and she asked me if i liked him...i said no. (i wasnt sure if i should have let her know or not) that was a huge mistake on my part because after i said that she said, "oh, well i think i like him" and then she said "can you please stop hanging around him as much? its kinda bugging me." i really thought this guy liked me though..and hes kinda admitted it but anyway live moved on for that one day. the next day i see him and my sister hugging eachother and holding hands. that guy finally has to go back home because the wedding has ended and while we're saying bye to the rest of his family, i see he and my sister go off to a corner and talk for a very long time. i'm glad told my sister that i didnt like him because my sister always is supposed to come before me and my feelings right? no matter what they are and who they're about?
2006-12-28 23:35:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should have just been honest with your sister regardless. Your sister was just assertive and asked if she could befriend him exclusively. You should have discussed the situation with her to reach an agreement. If you always back away from potential conflict, then you will always lose by default.
2006-12-28 23:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by smorgasborg69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems a good lesson for the future. Tell the truth the next time. I'd say: tell her that you lied before, but that you won't get in the way between them (and go searching for another boy), because it's your own fault. The most important thing here, is getting out the truth.
Lying always is a main cause for huge troubles.
2006-12-28 23:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by · 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being honest and open comes first. Your sister did show you respect by asking you before she moved on him. It sounds as though the two of you have a trusting relationship. That is a wonderful thing and comes before any guy.
2006-12-28 23:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first up if you really cared about your sister you would have told her the truth. Secondly you may have missed out on the love of your life because you dont think you deserve it.Thirdly what happens when they are not so cosy anymore and he asks you out. I have three sisters and totally understand the whole sisterhood thing but if you had told the truth in the first place you wouldnt been feeling so friggen bad. Yes you never cut your sisters grass but it could have been your grass to cut in the first place. stop sooking you brought it on yourself
2006-12-28 23:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by bonfireheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water, but also, you have to be honest with yourself, her and him. Does he live far away? Chances are, if so, that it won't go far with him, you or your sister. If not, you answered your sister untruthfully to begin with. You can either tell her how you feel, or let it go. Just make sure you say something, otherwise, by holding it in, you may become resentful, and that is not good.
2006-12-29 01:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it truly is not acceptable. I truly have 5 sisters and that could desire to harm me so badly if any of them enable that take place. he's taking benefit of those females in a foul way. what's he, a cherry popper? After he's taking the different sister's innocence is he gonna pass directly to the subsequent virgin? Sorry, yet this dude could be on my own.
2016-10-28 15:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's your problem? Are you looking for someone else to give you a kick when it is you that should be kicking yourself. If you want the guy, go for it, all's fair in love and war. Trouble is, he may prefer your sister to you. Could you handle that? I doubt it, so pretend it's a river, build a bridge and get over it.
2006-12-28 23:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your sister doesnt come before you and your feelings...if you would have been honest with her from the beginning this would have never happened.
2006-12-28 23:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister should come first, but it can still hurt doing the right thing doesn't always feel good, cheer up, your a great sister
2006-12-29 00:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, guys come and go, sisters are there to stay.
2006-12-28 23:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋