he loves me too,we met through net chat ,he told his parents about me, he talked to my parents too but they refused ,what to do now should i go for marrige with him against everybodies will.plz help
2006-12-28 22:40:05 · 11 answers · asked by nandita g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok - to clarify for those who read this who are not in India - clearly she has met someone who belongs to a different "case" or social group than her family belongs to. Traditionally, in India, marriages are arranged and occur only within the caste.
Clearly, you are doing a lot of things that your family will object to. First you are not having an arranged marriage and secondly you want to marry someone from a different, "lower" caste. Obviously a traditional family is going to have serious problems about both of those issues. You can see around you love marriages that are inter-caste/religion that have worked. Many times the family will come around to embrace the spouse. In my case I am a non-Indian and it took my Indian in-laws some time to adjust to the idea. Once the grand-kids came around my lack of caste no longer mattered!
You need to judge for yourself. Do you really love this person. Do you want to get married? Does the relationship have longterm potential. If your parents don't support you - will you be happy to be alone in the world with this person? Or will you always hold it against him that he came between you and your family? Is there a possibility your parents will change their mind? Can you work on your mom to get your dad to come around? Are there other concerns? Like do you have younger sisters that still need to get married?
Only you know if you really love this person. Only you can say if you really must be with him and nothing else in the world matters. Good luck.
2006-12-28 22:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by CV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our politicians are to be blamed for this kind of mental attitudes. I believe our generation, particularly, the persons aged 20-45 years of age at this time, had forgotten the thing named 'caste' and thanks to persons like V P Singh & Arjun Singh, we are again aware of the distinction.
I do not know for how long we shall continue to discriminate the human beings on the basis of caste & religion.
Your parents are not to be blamed. Kindly try to convince them in your own way. If the boy is eligible and dependable, the caste does not matter. Would they allow & approve your marriage to an absolute cheat even if he is of your own caste?
Have patience & convince them... MUST not act in a rash manner. You have not met the boy or his family personally. MUST check out the aspect before you decide. Net dating & net marriage are two different things. Life is very complex and it can not be compared with what you do on net.
2006-12-28 22:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u sure u love him?You met him thruogh net chatting right?Thats not what i'd call a place to start a relationship!
Anyway,I understand ur problem,and being an Indian I understand what ur parents are saying also!They were the ones to give birth to u,and u want to thank them by marrying someone not of their choice?
Anyway,if u still feel like it,go ahead,run away,and get married!
2006-12-28 22:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by The Slytherin Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the USA. there is no caste system and apart from your families, you might be able to marry and live together if you do not have major differences in what you believe to be the correct way to live and to possibly, raise your children. However, if you live in a culture where caste is in practice, you are going to have major problems in bringing your two families together, raising children, socializing and working and for that reason, it may not work. There will be inside opposition to your marriage in a caste system.
2016-03-28 23:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This are the third type of marriages (called as Net Marriage) we see now a days other then Love Marriage and Arranged Marriage.
There is too much of risk involved in such type of marriage then the other two. I repeat too much of risk unless you find out the real story. You may even have to employ a detective to verify the information he provide.
If you have not met him in person, he is as stranger as any other person on this blog.
First of all you need to request a complete bio-data of the guy whom you have met through chat. The request would include various details which you both need to exchange before even meeting in person. In case you need more help and counselings please contact counselor at nischai_org@yahoo.co.in we can provide you detailed questionnaire which you both need to fill in and discuss even before thinking of marrying each other.
Please note this is not a love affair and you may not know even 50% correct details of your to-be partner, that you should know before getting married.
God Bless You
2007-01-01 04:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things - Is he earning enough to suport the family? Will you and he be able to live together and do not let social and family problems and your own ego clashes come in between? The answer to these two questions will help you decide.
2006-12-29 20:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really sad that after all these years we still believe in the caste system. if u have no objection then u can go ahead but try to convince ur parents .give them some time to digest it and accept him.good luck.
2006-12-29 04:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't get married against your parents consent.Let the guy meet them several times, and you both can convince them together.If he is really nice and you love him, they will not say no. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-12-28 22:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
inform your parents that the persons belong to schedule caste dont have three legs, one hand and a head with horns....they are also human beings .....tell your love strongly so that they will relent.....otherwise marry her and visit your parents with their grand child...
cheer up my dear friend..
2006-12-29 19:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not part of your cast? Do you work on a tv show or something?....
2006-12-28 22:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋