im involved with a married man whom ive met for 3 mos. i am married too..he has a son and im pregnant.i have a wonderful husband still doesnt know about the two of us.his wife caught our affair and she is trying to destroy my life by threatening me with so many things.involving my career.we know we love each other so much but theres no way to escape in this real life.we're in different places right now..we know the best way to do but we just cant stop communicating each other..we dont want to continue our affair for the sake of our own family.but we cant just stop thinking about ourselves..how can we solve this problem?im really having so much pain emotionally and mentally..i want this affair to stop.
as soon as we knew im pregnant..my lover and i consulted an OB. to know if the baby might be his or not..but my lover is 100% sure that the baby belongs to my husband.we used condoms and my husband and i are trying conceive during that time..however, im still confused even now..
2006-12-28 22:12:04 · 12 answers · asked by haylene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
..my lover knew how scared i am right now..but he is trying to calm me.he is my confidant..cause we are the only one who can confide with each other..no one in my family or friends knows about our affair..thats one of the reasons why i cant escape from him..but soon the baby comes..and if the baby belongs to my husband then i can finally escape from him..
2006-12-28 22:13:09 · update #1
Well are you my X wife? I went through the same thing with my x? she wasn't Pregnant,but couldn't seem to break off the affair with her co worker until his wife found out, then she came to me and said she loved us both and that she was leaving me to continue the relationship with him, i was devistated, She left, i begged for consuling, we had a son together, we hardly ever fought, 1 year after she left, i found someone that was truelly amazing to me and to my son, she takes care of me like a king, she is now a stay at home mom and we are so happy, Back to my ex, she got married to the guy, built a house, and is misserable, but to stupid to swallow her pride and get out of the only lusting relationship, Just be carefull on what you choose, cause you are gonna want your husband back, and that family life back, wether the baby is his are not, be honest and come clean with him, he deserves it by all means, sex with someone else is not the end of the world, it hurts terribly to find this out, but the day will come when you will want him back trust me, after two years, my ex still tears up when she sees me, just dont do what she has done for kids and family unless that is really what you want, cause they may be no turning back!!!!!!!!
2006-12-29 03:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by 100pacentcrasy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to divorce your husband and drop the other loser too. They are both not satisfying you in more ways than one. You are not happy. You are very confused and you need to get your life back together on your own. Stop whoring around and causing all of these problems. You made stupid decisions, and now you are going to have to face up to the consequences of your actions. Think twice before you do something stupid again. Think of it as a harsh lesson learned and don't do it again.
2006-12-28 22:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the extra-marital affair quick. The bum is already showing his colors. He will end up destroying your marriage and leaving you and the baby in the dumps. Run girl run. Focus on hubby and having a family and stay out of extra marital affairs until you are capable of being totally independent.
2006-12-29 02:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by ky_shadows 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Escape from him" as in who? You really made a mess out of your life. the life of your husband, you helped with the jerk your screwing. You see I have no feelings for you, I had this happen to me and it crushed my life.
If you still have a little feelings for your husband give him a divorce and start your life over. Get rid of the jerk, let him sink or swim, he made his bed. Let his wife do what she has to do but remember, you can sue also, she has to be able to prove everything to whomever, and you can counter-sue, ask her if she's ready for that or, has the money.
Start life in another city, change your name if you have to but stop ruining lives.
2006-12-28 22:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband will probably find out eventually...
You have every reason to be confused and scared..
Cheating usually causes many problems..
Stay away from your lover and do your best to make hubby happy.
2006-12-28 23:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not surprised his wife wants to get back at u, u stole what belonged to her, and it hurt her.what goes around comes around, and what we do to others comes back to us in the form of karma, i have no doubt your emotionally hurting, but just look at what u did to his wife. u need to stop seeing this man and go back to your hubby and try to make things work. good luck
2006-12-29 00:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that your husband will eventually find the truth and even if the baby is his, he won't believe you. what was in your head? you were cheating your husband with another man but meantime you and your husband were trying to concieve a baby?
2006-12-29 00:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by christina23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a mess and there is no one on the internet that can help you.
Should have thought about the consequences of what you were doing.
good luck.
2006-12-29 00:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you screwed yourself. first off, you cheated on you HUSBAND. second you knew the man you were with was married. all i can say is this. if your husband doesnt leave you you are getting off too easy. marriage is not about screwing around.
2006-12-29 01:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far along are you in your pregnancy? It might be better to just terminate your pregnancy and move on with your life with a clean slate.
2006-12-28 22:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by buffybeast 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋