can someone tell me what the seven year itch is in a relationship??? explain it to me please, and also why does it happen? will we get through it??? been together 7 years now he has gone cold on me, we have a daughter.
2006-12-28 22:07:44 · 21 answers · asked by ann_jacques 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont know why they call it a 7 year itchbut i have been wioth my partner for 7 years and i am getting that itch and we have 2 kiddies.
at the moment it is like there is nothing between us? i think we will get through it but who knows, you will get through it if you both want to be with each other it cant be just one of you wanting to be whats the point in that. anyway hun gotto go and i hope things work out for you.
x
2006-12-28 22:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him....7 years itch is something everyone says that happens, but there are not years for that...can be 7 ...10....15 or 30. It depends on each couple. The worst can happens to a couple is to be´prisoner of the routine.
Sometimes one think that the marriage is solid and dont pay attention to it just for that......bcoz we think it is solid.
But believe me....love, marriage , any relation has to be "feed" everydays and we have to be careful about that.
The worst enemy in the relations is the routine.
If you and ur man have felt inside it...try to change and try to look for things that have interest for both.
Even....to have a daughter doesnt mean to forget the husband.
Hope things be better.........You have a good possibility to start in the New Year Eve..
GOOD LUCK, and HAPPY 2007
By the way........i'm married since 32 years,,,,and the itch has been here anytime i have forgotten that marriage are 2 , not myself as a mom.
2006-12-28 22:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by حلاَمبرا hallambra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe in such a thing ...I have been with my partner now for 25 years and I guess you could say we have an itch every week month and year ;) so don't worry about the saying ...I was wondering how old your daughter is? because when couples have children the male can get quite jealous of the relationship betwween his wife and their child/children and then become distant...it might not be that it is only a suggestion ...Happy New year to you and your family :)
2006-12-28 22:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Suki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the median duration of couples who divorced between 1989 and 1990 was 7.2 years. Hence the 7 year Itch
2006-12-28 22:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Chianti Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well after 17 years He never got bored or strayed(my husband),but then again He`d already been there ,done that.If You can last 7 years then You should have been through most of the pitfuls.Is that like when You evaluate the relationship,at that stage.You both probably need to put more effort for 'You' time,rediscover what it was like in the beginning
2006-12-28 23:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seven years is the time when you know all there is to know about each other, start taking each other for granted and the little irritations that used to be overlooked seam like huge problems.
Try to change your routine a little, maybe take a holiday.
Could someone you trust look after your daughter for a weekend, while the two of you go do something exciting and out of character.
You need to gut out of your normal life style, to make you see each other as new exciting people again.
All the best for you future ( we will be celebrating our 45th anniversary in January) so it is possible to get past this stage.
2006-12-28 22:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an 8 yr itch, my husband and i split for 5 months this year. For me it was about feeling that i was missing out on stuff i was angry over broken promises and and hated the rut we were in. we have two kids and i felt like a single mum, we were living seperate lives and growing further apart. We r back together but i'm still strugling with it. MUST TRY HARDER
2006-12-29 02:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an arbitrary figure of the number of years it takes for two people to know each other enough to decide whether to stay together or not. My first marriage exploded after 7 years, my second has gone into 8 and we are still happy.
2006-12-28 22:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must keep talking to one another, you must both work at it, you must both keep things fresh between you...communicate your needs-wants and desires to each other, work as a team together, work as a family. Have some variety in your love life, have some variety in the family group-make things HAPPEN within this "team"--spontaneity, variety, communication and all round love and human kindness within the family unit are key actions. Start as you mean to go on-you and your partner have a great many uphill struggles and battles ahead of you over the coming years, you will only come out on top if you both work together...then you will reap the many great benefits as your relationship unfolds and opens up.
2006-12-28 23:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep that's what the 7 year itch is supposed to be
bored after seven years - isn't it because that used to be how long the majority of marriages lasted??
2006-12-28 22:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋