My wife thinks her sister and myself is having a relationship only with her no one else. This started while she was pregnant and now the baby is 2.5 years old .So this is no more postpartum but something else but honestly I ever cheated with none so far. I am getting frustrated about this because it's actually driving me nuts at least 1-3 day's a week now with her questions. She even asked me to take a Polygraph and I said yes because of my kids. How can I correct this problem because I love her and I don’t want to break up our marriage due to this? Is this some kind of mental problem? Helpppppppp
2006-12-28 21:52:08 · 14 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Little more to the story.
She thinks like that because in her view I don’t talk to her much like her other cousins
I never ever went out alone with her.
Only been with her when the whole family and her husband are there.
She is making up stories like she Heard me asking her things and she is trying to talk to me and hide some thing.
2006-12-28 22:05:50 · update #1
I think you guys should definitely go to marriage counseling. Is there any reason she would think that you and her sister would be having an affair? Are you close with her sister? Does her sister hit on you?
More than likely, she's having issues with herself. Having a baby changes a woman's body and mind. Maybe with have a small child in the house you aren't able to be intimate as often and the frustration she feels because of that manifests in her mind that you must be sleeping with someone else ... or something like that. Which is why I suggested counseling.
Most importantly, you need to sit down and have a talk with your wife. Tell her that you love her, that you aren't cheating on her, and that you want to be with her ... but you can't live with the constant suspicion and accusations. Ask her what you can do to calm her fears.
2006-12-28 21:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've giving her no reason to question your relationship with your sister-in-law, then I have to wonder about their sibling relationship. She got something stuck in her head, and I know how powerful that can be. As everyone has said, this sound like a job for a councilor. I'm predicting this is going to be hard to get her there, because she feels she's right, and that everyone close to her has betrayed her. Maybe make the counseling about you.. a crisis that you are having, not related to the accusations. Then bring it out once you get her there. Good Luck..
2006-12-28 22:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ffejford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first instance you should introspect as to why she is thinking in this manner. Did you by any chance make such an attempt? I have a feeling that a wife will never talk such a thing just to break a relationship. Did she speak to her sister or found out something which you may have done unintentionally. Try finding it out.
2006-12-28 21:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorr but she's a mental case, dude. Why would she be suspicious, though? Do you hang out with your sister-in-law a lot or go places with her alone? A polygraph??? And you said yes? Unless she takes one herself and you ask her if she really believes all of what she's accusing you, then you shouldn't. Get her some help, as in therapy and some meds.
2006-12-28 21:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by guicho79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
number one DONT stop talking to her sister then she thinks something happened that u want to stop cheating even if u never have, thedont supprise her with a big gift because thats a sign that u feel guilty about something, if she ask for a polygraph again dont say yes in a harsh tone cuz then ur trying to lie give her a sympathec answere filled with meaning that u will take it and when ur with her dont look at other women
2006-12-28 21:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by blah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your actions when you are around the sister don't suggest it and it is NOT true, then your wife needs to be evaluated. Its tough to stick with someone who is constantly accusing you of things that are not true. Who is to say that after you clear yourself on the first accusation, that she won't come up with another and you spend all you time and money in the marriage taking poly graph tests. Doesn't sound like a good time to me.
2006-12-28 22:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by blahblahblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go to a doctor? There are tons of issues here that medically can be treated. Or don't and wind up in a failed relationship. Get going
2006-12-28 21:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont think its a menatl problem. When woman get pregnant they tend to worry alot, and i think that the worrying since her pregnancy has not gone away. And you really need to see somone that can help you with this problem before your marriage does get ruined.
2006-12-28 21:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jus call me "BUBS" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1)try to take any of her friends into confidence and ask them to find out why she feels so insecure.
2)tell her that you love her and wouldn't leave her for anything.
3)take time out together
4)take her to a therapist.
5)if nothing works then go to a marriage councellor.
2006-12-28 22:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by mermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a reason to question your integrity? If not she may need some professional help.
2006-12-28 21:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jon H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋