In the past, I would look at all those advice columns which always advise people to talk it out face to face when there’s a misunderstanding. But is this really the best way? What if people just don’t want to share their feelings with you? What if things get worse when you talk it out, ‘cos the truth may hurt them?
2006-12-28 21:42:39 · 12 answers · asked by pamela10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think a lot of times people are afraid of being judged and made fun of for the way that they feel. People are mean no matter how old they are.
I personally like to talk things out face to face, thats the only way to really see how the person is recieving what you are saying. That doesn't mean that it is the best way for everyone. There is a tactful way to say anything. Its all about the tone and carefully chosen words. Its the think before you speak thing. If things get worse because you talked to them, well thats not your fault, you tried. If someone doesn't want to share their feeling with you, I guess hang in there and earn their trust, they will come around eventually.
2006-12-28 21:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by blahblahblah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me try to answer that by taking one question at a time:
1. People ar usually scared to talk to others during a misunderstandings. This may be because they're feeling guilty or scared or annoyed or angry.
2.Yes, it's best to clear out things in a misunderstanding but sometimes, its better to stay silent.
3. YOu need to leave people alone until they feel they trust u enough to share their feelings with u. Maybe they don't trust u enough or they are insecure because of something that happened in the past or maybe they're just introverts.
4. Sometimes, the truth can be very painful. If u think u'll hurt somebody by telling them what u think of them, it's better (i feel) to stay quiet. But if u think the truth can stop somethink disastrous, go ahead and say it.
Hope i've been of help.
2006-12-28 22:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by nauts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people don't like sharing some feelings cause maybe its sad or angry but if that friend was really honest with you he would tell you the truth and sometimes friends don't want to share some of their feelings it may make you cry or get angry and thats something that is painful and by the way its no biggie you only share the feelings about a fight or you had a bad thing going on like jealousy...
2006-12-28 22:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to make a friend whom you can share yourself with. I've had many friendships break up over a misunderstanding. I've learned to be very careful about who I start a friendship with. As it stands, I keep things at a casual level, where there's not a lot demanded of the other. I've learned to handle most, if not all of my problems, on my own. This way, I don't burden anyone with my problems. Contrary to popular belief, friends can rarely be there for you when you need them. People who do have real friends are in the minority, not the majority.
2006-12-28 22:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people as so afraid of letting the real them out that talking really scares them ....I feel that people should talk about about anything and everything as long as there is respect!! That is the most important thing...tell the truth but always respect...but dont be afraid to be the real you...that is the person you are so dont hide it...if somebody cares for u for u then they will want to hear what you need to say..
2006-12-28 23:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Katbutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's just it. Sharing our feeling is putting ourselves out there and be vulnerable hoping the other person will understand. It is a sign of trust.
Some people are more reserved than others and I believe that should be respected, when they feel comfortable they will open up.
2006-12-28 21:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Intrigued 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason why people don't like to talk about their feelings, is because of the fear that people may laugh at them, not understand their point of view or maybe think that they are weird for feeling sad about something that to someone else is not very important.
2006-12-28 21:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people find it very hard to talk openly if they have been hurt by somebody in the past after doing so. Make take a lot more trust and time to do it again.
2006-12-28 21:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by joey p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people don't like to talk about their feeling because they don't know how the other side will react to it. sometimes people are afraid that people (even friends) will ridicule them about their emotions. in out lives we have people that we know we can trust and people we can't. it's all a matter of choice. you don't have to tell your best friend if you know they will make fun of you. some people can't handle emotions and are tring not to ponder about feelings.
2006-12-28 21:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by amgoich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one likes to talk heart to heart because it fills u with the unsecurity that some one is geting close to u i dont belive anyone should ever talk straight out things should be worked out slowly all at onec is to much for any one to handle
2006-12-28 21:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by blah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋