My friend and i have been friends for a good 15 years. since we were 5 years old and have never had a fight with eachother the entire time. We were inseperable. She stayed with me for awhile because of her father being an alcholic. during the time of our graduation of high school we started to drift apart because ì started a long time relationship with a guy. We spoke on the phone and saw eachother once every couple of months due to careers but we were still close. she has now met new friends and i can see that she is slowly going down the hill by hanging around them, she was a virgin and now she is having unprotected sex and getting drunk every weekend clubbing something that she has never done the entire time i have known her. I dont know whether she is going through a phase or what? i told her how i felt and now we have being arguing for the past 2 weeks, now she says that i have never been there for her and that im a bad friend. should i stop speaking to her? its breaking my heart
2006-12-28 21:38:42 · 4 answers · asked by caboodles111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she is somewhere true coz if u would have been with her she might have not undergone all this wht she is undergoing now... but she should understand ur feelings also
2006-12-28 21:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by sweety 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if you have tried to talk to her in a calm and rational manner, and without any positive coming from it, she is probably already gone. The thing is, no matter how much people say that they want to hear the truth, they never do when it makes them look and feel guilty and bad. Deep down she knows, otherwise she wouldn't lash out at you about it. As long as you have expressed yourself completely, there really isn't anything that you can do. She will either come around when she wakes up, or by the time she realizes that you were really the good friend, you will have moved into the next faze of your life and it won't matter. Been there, done that, and really in the end, its not worth all the effort that is wasted. Some people are just in different spots in their lives regardless if they are the same age or not. Good luck
2006-12-29 05:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by blahblahblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever stop speaking to her ... instead show her that you're always gonna be there for her whether she wants u or not and that way she'll come to u when she needs u the most and she'll realize u were always there for her. stay in touch with her and dont let the friendship fall apart ..trust me thats way worse. if she continues arguing dont persist just give her some space for a while .. she'll come back
2006-12-29 05:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nikita_16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iNVITE FOR COFFEE TALK IT OUT TRY TO SHOW HER HOW YOU CARE ASK WHAT YOU CAN DO YO HELP HER AND IF POSSIBLE DO IT OR GET HELP TO DO IT .
2006-12-29 05:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋