my ex never wants time with the kids- usually doesn't show for visits. never calls. now that he has a new job making much more money, he and his live-in want the kids 1/2 time. we go back to court soon. other than taking my lawyer, any good suggestions? ps - i am a good mom, stable home, good neighborhood and job.
2006-12-28 21:34:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
you must play a little chicken... child support is based on income...as long as you have to go to court anyway may as well ask for more cash. he won't get half time this court visit but he probably will get more. be prepared and bring a lawyer. otherwise you have a fool for a client
2006-12-29 05:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much chance since he has shown little interest before. In fact, unless he pays child support, his rights could be terminated for abandonment as that is the definition!
I would suspect the court woul need to see considerable improvement in his interactions with the children.
You didn't say what the current order reads or how old the children are!
2006-12-29 05:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure the "no-shows" and "no calls" are documented!! I can't stress enough to document EVERYTHING! Are your children old enough to speak to the judge? If so ask for your children to have a private chat (without him or you in the room)with the judge and let them tell him/her about the no shows or calls. Do you think the reason he wants 1/2 custody is to get out of paying you any type of support?? Better job...more money...usually equals more support.
Definitely speak to your attorney!
Good luck!
2006-12-29 05:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In principle, he should have another chance at being a part of the kids' life. However, if he lives very far, you can cite that it would cause problems with the children's social lives, and school work.
And well, if he lives nearby, let him see the kids more often than every second weekend. It'll give you some time off too.
2006-12-29 05:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure you are a good mom, you wouldn't admit it if your not, right! Why not let him try to be a good dad, you should be happy that he is at least stepping in the right direction to be a good dad, put your bad feelings about him aside and let the kids spend time with their dad. if he is really unfit the kids will figure that out on there own don't force your feelings about him onto the kids. kids are smarter than people give them credit for, they will know if it is real or just for a show. give him a chance
2006-12-29 06:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children do not need to feel pushed from pillar to post.
They did not ask for this.
As far as they are concerned mum and dad are mum and dad.
They need to understand that both of you still love them.
Keep your disagreements from them.
Don't let it become a power struggle.
Children need a routine and when young ,mum is the light bulb in the home.
When they get older they can be weaned and will enjoy the break with dad.
Neither want to hurt your children and if they see mum and dad greeting each other in peace it brings peace to their lives.
If what they observe in their early years is mum and dad hating each other you will both face them as they become adults .
And you will not be dealing with children at this time.
If you want respect one day now is the time to let them see your integrity.
It will pay off and you will be blessed with children who respect and love you both!
Take care!
Happy New Year!.
2006-12-29 05:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he felt like he wasn't worthy before and now he's got his life together.
2006-12-29 05:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by neurotic one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really wouldn't worry about it too much. if he has been irresponsible up until now then he hasn't got much chance.
2006-12-29 05:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋