He is allowed every other weekend,and I just met the girl,who now lives with him. My son likes her and that is really all I care about,as long as she is good to my child,but I want to know what my rights are regarding if she is able to watch him while his father is not there?
2006-12-28 20:43:28 · 10 answers · asked by joduscabodus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everything should be stated in your court Docs. What state are you in?
I'm in Cali and I do not have to let my daughter go for her visit unless her father picks her up. I will not allow her to go with her grandparents or dads girlfriend and I am well within my rights.
The reason for visit is to spend as much time with the other parent as possible, if he is not available to watch your child or at leas to pick him up, you do not have to let him go.
remember in everything you do, that your child does not suffer or see you react in any negative way, but if you are uncomfortable you do not have to let your son go.
If dad has a problem, let him come pick up the child, there is nothing the girlfriend can do to take him from you. She is not in the custody agreement and if dad is not there to watch him, he does not need to have his visit.
2006-12-28 20:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at the Court Order. It may stipulate who is to pick your son up. Once your son is picked up, your ex can basically have anybody watch him. Your ex is pretty much free to do whatever he chooses with visitation time. He also does not have to take his visitation, but you cannot deny him that time. If you have solid evidence that leads you to believe that he or the girlfriend will harm him, then you need to go back to court and prove it to the judge.
2006-12-28 20:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by salsera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be concerned I think. She is not related to your child in anyway and has no business to be looking after your child without your ex-husband being present.
If your husband is not there to pick your child up and be with him then maybe he should only have your child when he thinks he is ready to spend time with him - that is the whole point of visitations in the first place. His girlfriend is not legally entitled to take custody of your child.
You should definately seek legal advice for your sake and your child and know the pitfalls of allowing your situation to continue making sure that they are not grooming your child.
2006-12-28 20:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your agreement, Personally I would not allow it. If he really wanted to see his son, he would have picked him up himself. Who knows if he (your ex) was even going to spend time with him or just have her watching him? I've seen it to many times where the guy has his girlfriend taking care of things while he hunts, goes fishing with the buddies, etc. and the kids don't get to see much of them. Talk to your ex and tell him how you feel or check with your lawyer to see what he/she has to say about it. (they can answer your question over the phone)
2006-12-28 20:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by redy2screm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no professional or anything but I would think that's it not really legal.
Seeing as she has no relation to the child. And if your ex only gets to see
your child every other weekend, why is he having the girlfriend watch
the child? shouldn't he be the one being with him?
2006-12-28 20:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you would have to ask your lawyer about that one...but my guess would be that if you are uncomfortable with that arrangement, you would have some say in the matter....I don't think there is anything you can do about her spending time with your son but I think you probably can insist that your ex pick him up and drop him off ensuring that he is around when your son is there....glad your son likes her....makes it a little easier...good luck
2006-12-28 20:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your son is in your care do you ever hire or ask somebody else to watch him? (babysitter, friend) I think it is socially awkward on the exchange for your ex to send the girlfriend but he can hire/ask any adult* to watch him. I don't think you have a legal case here...
*ok, no sex offenders, etc
2006-12-28 20:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mario G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that its up to you. He has visitation rights so he is the one that is supposed to pick up and supervise the child. If you don't have a problem with her watching him and or picking him up then I'm sure its fine. Its really up to you. Talk to them about it.
2006-12-28 20:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I would speak to your lawyer about this. I don't see how it could be since this person is in essence a stranger and why would you want to give your child to a stranger...
2006-12-28 20:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you don't contest it! If you don't want her to pick him up then talk with you attorney they will get it straightened out for you! Also look @ your papers it may already have a clause in it!
2006-12-28 20:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋