He always talk about other girls and their boobs. I hate it when i talk about girls. Because of this we fight always. He likes to spend time only with his friends, he himself told me that. I am unlucky to get husband like this. I hate myself. I didnt have father in my child hood days. I thougt atleast after marriage my life will be wonderful. I look ok not too beautiful. I dont know what's wrong with us. I wish i get divorce and stay alone. But in this world i dont have anybody.
2006-12-28 20:36:29 · 14 answers · asked by Lakshmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know what, tell him that you like girls too and talk about their boobs,and watch how much he is going to like it. Don't show that you are jealous, be smart, show that you are stonger, not weak. try not to divorce if you have no one, give it a more try and see if he'll change. BONNE CHANCE DARLING.
2006-12-28 20:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am really sorry that you have such low self esteem! I too, was in a similuar situation...fortunatly, that was years ago! I am living proof that you can turn your life around, and, never again allow anyone to disrespect you again!
I grew up without a father as well, and I did make some bad choices early on based on the fact that I was looking for someone to replace that empty feeling! The truth is...that has to come from inside yourself! You are only in control of your own thought, decsions,and actions! And, the fact that your husband disrepects you, only means that he is a jerk! Why waste time fighting with him over things that you can't change about him? Is he some really amazing looking guy? For some reason, I doubt it! For someone to say or do hurtful things to someone they supposedly love...should not be a reflection on you! It should only open your eyes to what you want, don't want, and most importantly...ask yourself just what it is that you do want!
Don't allow yourself to be a victim anymore!! I assure you, if you learn to love yourself, and no longer accept your husbands cruelty, you will be much happier! My ex husband used to degrade me, cheat on me...and, justify his bad behavior by blaming it on me! I believed that he cheated on me because I was fat, ugly and every other mean thing he would tell me! Well, let me tell you...once I got away from the creep, I focused on my own self improvement! I am happy to say, I have never looked back! I became a much better person than I ever believed possible! Guess who regrets losing me? That's right...my ex is still in shock over the person I have become!!! His loss! You have the power to transform your life!! My transformation has been the best revenge!!! You don't deserve to feel the way you are feeling. Nobody does! At least be good to yourself...or don't expect anyone else to!
2006-12-29 05:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by ShellBelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a divorce.
You can get an education, job and a place of your own.
If your husband controls all the money and you have none of your own then I would suggest save up your own money out of his for awhile until you get enough to hire an attorney, file for a divorce, go back to school if you didn't finish, make sure he pays alimony to support you, if kids are involved then make sure you get child support.
You deserve love and respect, now go out there get your life together and find it.
Most people make the mistake marrying a loser the first time, it's ok. But there's no excuse the second time.
2006-12-29 04:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you let this loser talk you into marrying him? Are you really that desperate? Get a better image of yourself, believe in yourself, and forget him. He's a jerk.
Look you have internet access so you don't live in a mountain village in Peru or something with 9 people in it. That means there are other guys around. Dump this loser, act confident about yourself so you don't attract losers and wife beaters who can sniff out the weak, and regular men will be on you like stink on a monkey.
2006-12-29 05:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have God! And those of us who are working or just can't sleep. Don't waste your life with someone who isn't interested in you. Move on and get a divorce. You will find someone 10 times better!
2006-12-29 04:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you wont have anyone if you leave your husbund thats because your with him,once you leave him you will have a new life and you need to do that a man who can put you down that much and make you feel that way needs to be cut loose,start fresh and trust me your yet to find your your soal mate,you probbably are beautifull m ost women never call them sleves pretty,you need to start looking after your self get your sel;f organised befpre you leave him and organise a unit or house to move into and then just leave take your things leave hima note and no contact number,get your self a new hair cut colour and a new sexy clothes and start enjoying your life and demand respect nothing less
2006-12-29 04:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to show him you are better than them. men will always be looking unless they are blind
but its up to you to make him see you are best, if you care for him make an effert to show him how much.maybe you entered the marraige with the wrong expectations. I will pray for you and hope you can work it out God loves you and I am sure your husband does. maybe you could start going ut with some girls and see how he likes you talking about mens bodys. ( that is a last resort)
2006-12-29 04:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have us here :-) Seriously, he is an a$$. Try the less expensive route first...couple therapy; if that doesn't work than spend a little more to get that divorce. Best of luck.
2006-12-29 04:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Raniqueen1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not thing that your husband is interested in other just try to change your self ,develop your image to attract him ,i hope your husband is trying to know that what will be your action after all that talks ,do not thing that you are alone in this world and be positive ,do not faith in others ,whenever your husband talks about boobs of other lady say yes realy ,try to give him more love
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2006-12-29 05:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by karm_veergujar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably you and your husband should talk to each other peacefully on this matter. It might be that he's only sharing with you his views about other girls. I think you should tell him that this makes you feel uncomfortable and let's see how he reacts to that. Don't jump sp easily on conclusions...talk it out girl!! He's your husband and he loves you for sure.
2006-12-29 04:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by Monika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋