How do I stop a false rumor about me?

Question

I am in highschool. Two of my ex boyfriends are spreading rumors that I cut my wrists, that I sleep around, and that I let guys feel me up. This is NOT true. I don't even know where they got that idea because I am honestly a good kid. I cannot convince anyone to believe me. I know, I know, I should brush it off and those who care about me will see me through.... but what about NOW??

Answer 1

Go around telling people about the fact that the rumour is going around.

When people see that you know about it and aren't ashamed or worried by what is being said (just that untrue things are being said and that's a bit sad and pathetic - if you get my meaning) then they, and the tiny brained losers spreading the rumours will see that lies have no power over you and they'll drop it.

Sounds like completely the wrong thing to do (spread the story faster and wider) but the effect is to change the chatter from what was said about you to focusing on the people spreading the story and their credibility will be damaged for the rest of their time at that school.

You can easily prove the lie about the wrists by showing them that you have no scars and therefore they are liars and the other points have come from liars so why would anyone believe them.

Best of luck.

High school sucks in this regard but it will be over all too soon. Check out the successful people in life and you'll see that very few of them were 'popular' at school. It's a weird culture that has a whole different set of rules and expectations than the 'real world' so if you are having trouble it is probably just because you are suited to real life and not that bizarre little world we all have to go through for a few years.
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Answer 2

Ignore it. Live above the rumors. People believe what they want. Those who know you best know what the truth is. The fact those two spread stories like that will eventually reflect more on them than it will you. Wait. When no one sees scars on your wrists and none of the boys can even get a date with you, they'll figure it out.
Or a swift kick in the groin might make an impression.
Beyond that: protesting too much about it just draws attention to it. The next time someone asks if that stuff is true, give them your best withering look and ask :"Do YOU think it's true? And if so, WHY do you think it's true?"

Answer 3

Don't worry sweetie. Karma is a ***** and what goes around comes around. Trust me. Sometime soon, the shoe will be on the other foot and they'll get it three times as worse. I've seen karma in action so have faith. Until then, just continue to be a good kid and the people with half a brain in their head will know that those rumors are bs. You wouldn't believe all the crazy rumors I heard about people when I was in high school. There was even one about me and two of my friends but I never found out what the actual rumor was. It sucked at first but as time went on I really didn't give a **** anymore. I know how much high school can suck and I'm SO glad I'm out of it. With all the drama, it's just a stressful place to be. Good luck and keep that head up high, girl!

Answer 4

Well, I hate to tell you this, but time will only put a stop to it. Try all you can to not lash back at them, by lashing back or trying to get them back is only lowering yourself to their level, I know thats hard to do right now, but try your hardest. You heard the old saying before that actions speak louder then words...well thats true. The way you handle your life now and conduct yourself in public will do the speaking for you. You can look at the positive side, at least you don't have to choose who you would like to be in your life, their doing that for you! If you don't have any marks on your wrsits and not hanging on guys then those rumors will repell off of you. Here's an example of myself, I don't drink & I haven't for 12 years, there's has never been a beer can/bottle in my place for 12 yrs and I never went to the bar in that amount of time either, I have had the rumors that I been to the bar and that I'm an alcoholic, but those rumors NEVER stuck, and the ones that knows me knows that, so when that rumor starts, the people that does know me puts a stop to it. Lets use the same thing, but lets say I do go to the bar just to play pool and even though I haven't drank for 12 yrs the rumor that I'm an alcoholic might stick just because I am in the bar. Since I don't go to the bar or associate my life around alcohol those rumors can not stick!!! I know it sucks and it's so cruel to spead rumors that isn't true, but it happens. I'm 49 and still have things spead about me. YOU are absolutly right about those who really do care about you will see you through. Only lashing back will only lower yourself to their level and you don't want to do that!!! Let your actions speak for you!!!

Answer 5

What ever you do, don't draw anymore attention to yourself by blabbing something about them or vandalizing there lockers or talking about it to everyone! Let it die down..........
Time, right now you can't undo what has already been said but you can prove them wrong so no one will believe them, and the ones who did will change there mind about you. Hold your head up, smile at everyone, when they see it isn't phasing you one bit, they can't hurt you anymore. I promise that even though you feel like the world is staring you down, like you have an elephant on your back, by next week they will be talking about somebody else. Just ride it out... don't worry about it so much. I think that's what those guy's get off on. Watching you squirm or anybody they can do that way. Be strong! Do you know how many girls that has been said about in the worlds history? more than we could probably count. Hell it was said about me, most of my friends, the cheerleaders, couple teachers too. Truth be known about 75% get felt up, and have slept with more than one person. When you finally do those things you'll just be doing what they have been dong for a long time, they shouldn't be talking about anybody elses habits! It won't even matter in a few weeks. Trust me. Just blend into the crowd but don't hide in a hole. You can do it. Those guys will be sorry, god is watching them!

Answer 6

A good girl would brush off, ignore it, and eventually the rumor will die.

Now when I was your age I would have...oh never mind, I am not going to tell you because it could get you in trouble. But revenge is so sweet.

Just let it go. It is winter, everyone is bored, you are the new topic to talk about. Next week they will be talking about someone else.
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Answer 7

Well, I think you can't stop the rumors. Maybe you could ask your ex boyfriends if they can prove that you sleep around. And you can of course prove that you don't cut your wrists (just show them you don't have any scars...). If you don't wanna be offensive, you can also just ignore them and pretend you never heard the rumors. That's what I always did...

Answer 8

That is a sad story. Highschool sucks. The things about rumors is that people who know you should not beleive them, and that is what matters.

People who put validity to stuff probably are better off not being your friend anyways.

Highscool is rough, good luck and Im sure stuff will work out for you.

Answer 9

Spread schoolwide propaganda that "Komrade julia gulia" is a hero to the people of the school, and that she fights bravely and proudly for the motherschool.

Don't forget to mention that "ex-komrades-in-love of julia gulia" has disgraced the entire motherschool, and should be expelled from the motherschool forever!!

ONWARD AND UPWARD!!! YEEHAW!

Just kidding. I don't really have a definite answer, but I know it's going to be really hard to erase rumors. You're just going to ask your very best friends to help you clear it all up, repeatedly saying that you're are a good kid, and so forth. It's going to be hard. Erasing rumors is like losing a stack of papers on a windy day and having to retrieve each and every one of them.

Take a look on the bright side though, I believe that you're a good kid! ;) Honest!!

Answer 10

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