I apologize for not being more specific, this is my first time posting and I wasnt sure how to ask the question. Well for starters, I was the one who had used cocaine, I tried it during a bad time in my life. About a year ago my husband left me for another woman. We were seperated for almost three months, during this time I went out with my friends and did use cocaine a couple of times. When my husband and I got back together I didnt tell him about this, even though I knew he would be furious. I figured it happened while we were apart and I wasnt going to continue, so I left it in the past, well recently he found out, we talked about it, he said he forgave me but there are times when we argue that he brings it up.
He constantly puts me down for this and tells me what a horrible person I am for having done it, but yet he is the one who chose to stay, and continues to stay. What should I do?
2006-12-28 19:46:59 · 6 answers · asked by sadie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him tell him you are not proud of what you did...but you are not doing that anymore and its time for him to let it go and not throw it in your face. Everybody makes mistakes....and he should forgive, and forget. If you were still using it would be a different story. Are you throwing the fact that he left you for another woman? The emotional pain you felt is a lot worse than any disappointment he may feel because you used cocaine
2006-12-28 19:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lolitta 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
he left u for this other woman, and it caused u to go out and try the cocaine, not letting u off the hook exactly, but had he never left u, u would most likely have never done the coke in the first place. he should be the one apologizing to u, he should know that what he did was far worse than what u did, u hurt only yourself, he on the other hand destroyed your self worth, your trust, his sin is by far the worst of the two. he needs to stop it, he caused it and no one else, he is the horrible person.
2006-12-29 00:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you forgive someone for something, you don't keep throwing it up in their face. If he really forgave you, and you're not an addict now, why does he keep bringing it up, to hurt you? You were hurt enough when he left you for another woman weren't you? You don't need that kind of aggravation. I wouldn't be able to constantly stay with someone who kept bringing up the past. Let the past stay where it is, in the past. If he can't stop hurting you verbally, then you need to reconsider the validity of your relationship with him. No man who truly loves his wife wants to go on hurting her, physically or verbally.
2006-12-29 00:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a D I C K. He can rag on you about something you did. But am sure he don't want to hear you rag on him about that other women. And don't you believe him when he says what a horrible person you are for doing what you did. He is mad with himself, more then he is mad with you. And he is turning the tables on you. Girl you better spake up.Tell him you are ruining us by always bringing this up, and how would you feel if I always bought up your affair. How can we get over this if your always yelling at me about it. We can talk about it. But the yelling and trying to make me feel horrible, its not going to happen. Girl you better tell him like that. And buy him ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships written by Dr. Laura C.Schlessinger
2006-12-29 07:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Love is an amer bull canines" hit it ideal on, I even have 3 young little ones, 2 canines & a loopy 18 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous cat. privateness? No heavily, the 4 legged's get kicked out of mattress and the door get's locked!!
2016-10-19 03:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by atalanta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry bout it get some more and get him to do it with ya he might just like it
2006-12-29 01:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by miss v8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋